I'm in over my head when it comes to romantic relationships

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I’ve been trying this whole online dating thing for months now, and I’ve had SOME luck when it comes to communicating with women. My problem, it seems, is maintaining a relationship. I can text with them all day, but the minute we decide to meet up, I get super anxious at the thought of it. I think I’m better off just staying single and doing my own thing. Besides, these dating websites can get expensive…

How about you? If you’re in a romantic relationship, how do you cope with this illness, all while caring for your significant other?

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I haven’t met the guy I’m talking to yet but I hope to have a good relationship idk how I’m gonna be able to handle it though but in the end who knows

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that’s how I was with the girl I was just talking to. We decided to meet up, but I had no idea how to handle it. So I called it off

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I am my wife’s gopher. I make sure she has what she needs.

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What is making you anxious? Do you have social anxiety? If you don’t expect much, it will turn out okay. It works = great, doesn’t = great.

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yeah, social anxiety and my social skills aren’t great to begin with. Idk, I guess I just have trouble maintaining relationships with people – I don’t really like myself, so it’s hard for me to like other people.

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You can have a platonic relationship or keep the relationship long distance only. Chat with a friend on the phone every day. People are looking for different things nowadays. If you don’t like yourself, you should try to help yourself. Relationships are so much work.

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I agree that relationships are alotta work. And I’m not really ready to get into one, so it makes zero sense that I’m on all these dating sites. Oh well, I can cancel anytime. I just like to see what’s out there

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Zeke,
I’ve met some amazing people this way. Three long term friends, one romance, and one play. I know what you mean, though… the panic gets out of control, heart palpitates, hands get sweaty, etc.

They are probably anxious, too!

Meet in a calming place. Go over what you will do, step by step. Thanks @77nick77 for that one. Have a backup plan.

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I guess it’s the initial meet up that makes me the most anxious. I can warm up to people once I get to know them. Thank you for the reply.

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You’re welcome. Nolongerlonely.com is for disabled persons. I’m not on there anymore. It’s worth a shot.

Whatever you decide will be the right decision for YOU. Take your time. :upside_down_face:

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I’ll have to keep that nolongerlonely.com site in mind. Thanks!

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