We need to bring back the idea of love from pre-Soviet Russia. I’ve been reading Anna Karinina and The Idiot and I really like the idea. It’s usually a girl talking to another girl in the books.
It’s not “I love you let’s sleep together” love. It’s a completely asexual, “you are so awesome. You don’t know how awesome you are. Let’s be best friends. I wish I was like you.”
Like a little kid loving an older kid thing. Before we knew what sex was. I don’t know if you would call it in love. Maybe enraptured or infatuated by the person. Like you just think they’re the greatest thing since sliced bread.
There was an interesting one. One girl was so enraptured by another girl Spoiler alert for “The Idiot” that she decided because she was a “debased” woman (in other words she had sex before marriage even though she was more than just basically raped) that this other girl should marry the man of her dreams who really cared for her. She set them up and wrote the girl telling her how wonderful she thought she was (and yes, she did use the words “I"m in love with you”). The prince was the man of her dreams (there were a ton of princes in Russia at that time so it wasn’t exactly the Emperor’s son, it was a lesser title) she wanted to marry him off to this other girl one, because she didn’t feel like she was good enough for him and two, she thought this other girl was so perfect that she deserved him. End of Spoiler Alert
Why don’t we have platonic love like this any more?