I just want some kind of relationship I don’t care if it’s casual. Babies I’m with you I don’t want them.
I don’t want to be single my whole life that would be a waste.
But, won’t he be older too? Like I would be ok dating a lot of women in their early 40’s, but in my 20’s I would have said “No way!”
I’m about to turn 38 and I’m realizing I’ll probably be single the rest of my life. I burned bright in my early 20’s, had some seriously intense love interests, and then got sick and it fell apart.
To the best of my knowledge, I have no children, though my one ex used to play games with my head all the time, and might have been pretending that she missed her period when I broke up with her. She was pretty manipulative and would use any trick she could to try to keep me hooked.
I always wanted to be a father, but after I got DX’d, I became scared to have kids. I can work part time and come across as slightly eccentric to most people, and they don’t know I have sz, but I don’t want any child of mine going through what I went through in my 20’s and early 30’s. That’s a hell I don’t wish on anyone, even people who are sworn mortal enemies.
It depresses me, thinking about being single. I don’t even know why I’m trying to lose weight, because I don’t care about my own health much, but I’m tired of being overlooked by women. It’s a crapshoot what happens, just be yourself and let the details work themselves out, I guess.
When we are healthy it goes that way. But some guys are not like that and that is one big reason for breakups later in life. I guess it’s an unfair argument to make that you should do that to a young man. I would argue that an older man who is far sighted and is looking for Miss Universe might need his glasses broken.
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I must admit that although I know it’s wrong I still feel that way to an extent. I attribute it to years of porn addiction. Staying off of it for a few years has improved my viewpoint but i have a long way to go.
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Good god I’m 29 and never had a relationship in my life.
Hopefully things will change this year
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i hope you find someone walla
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im single at 41 and always have been, in fact im even a virgin, but that’s life
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I was married for 7 years, now divorced.
No kids with her thank goodness.
Never say never.
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I want to end up with someone, but I’m too unstable right now for any sort of commitment 
I am on the same boat. I will be single all my life. I will die single with any kids. My circumstances and my mental illness will lead me to that. I struggle well with the fact of not having boyfriends but when I think in kids… That touch me. But this is the life. Nothing is perfect.
Unstable and have someone I’m seeing.
Relationships make me dumber and weaker tho, so I might get single for a while to finish an important project.
Generally speaking, having a relationship while being schizophrenic is one hell of a challenge.
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Maybe it’s better that I’m not with a woman and haven’t been for some time. I’ve been able to focus on myself. I’m not where I want to be, but I’m a hell of a lot closer than I ever have been, since getting DX’d.
I want to be a SINGLE haredi man, and dedicate all my time and energy to studying Torah
and observing the commandments of Jewish law.
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I just opened a dating profile yesterday online. I’ve gotten a couple of likes but I’m looking for someone that is both Christian and doesn’t want kids and it is slim pickings for that combination. I found someone that was both and gave them a like but they ignored me. I’m wondering if maybe I should just be open to adopting kids. That would make it easier. I just don’t know if I could handle raising children or if I’d be allowed to adopt because I have schizophrenia and depression. It also sucks that I’m shallow. I’ve gotten mostly responses from older men. I think I might just go with someone that is older even if by 10-15 years because most of the men my age aren’t into me. I don’t blame them I’m ugly and I still don’t have a career at 27 years old. I’m working on it but I’m not there yet. I don’t really have a problem with marrying someone older except that they will probably die a while before I do and so even if I get married I’ll still die alone. Idk.
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@Alan96 You can count me in as well.
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I don’t think anyone knows for sure what they have to contribute to their species. Your children may or may not have a similar problem as you, just as their children might have. That doesn’t mean they can’t make good contributions to society and humanity as a whole.
I’m single involuntarily. I’m just way too shy and repulsive to attract anyone. I’m making small steps to overcome that, but we’ll see how it goes.
Yes I will be single all my life no one wants to be with me anyway if they did they would of been a long time ago. And plus I enjoy being single I can come and go as I please and do as I want without being judged or asked where I am going or what I am doing which annoys the crap out of me.
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I would like to remain single for the rest of my life…
Zero worries, only peace. 
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I have phases where I want a relationship, but more often I have phases where I don’t want one.
The way I see it, if I had a partner, then her problems would become my problems, her worries would become my worries.
And to be honest, I have a hard enough time dealing with my own issues.
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