I wouldn’t be if they could keep it to themselves, or even if it was a one off thing, but your skin can only be so thick. Eventually, the lies, the non constructive criticism, the assumptions, the hatred, they get to you. And despite that, I’ve never flagged a person for being an ass to me, calling me names or anything of the sort. I’m human, and no matter how confident a human is in themselves, they all care at least a little bit what others think of them.
This makes me think of the Flora Cash song You’re Somebody Else.
"I saw the part of you
That only when you’re older you will see too
You will see too"
The music video portrays the song’s message of struggling with depression, anxiety and self-image.
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Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter.
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@Sardonic
I’m sorry you’re hurting. I find your posts helpful and encouraging. You make me think, and I need that in my life. I hope you find support and care on this forum!
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When I’m having a hard time with my symptoms, or even life in general, I can be a straight up bi tch, and I imagine myself trying to reach out but failing as I have before, and suddenly, the post doesn’t make them seem like an ass, but like a suffering human. There are some things that have to go and I get it, but it’s very possible to defend the person being yelled at while still supporting the person doing the yelling. Also, I get that trolls are a different story, but I’m not good enough at differentiating between trolling, trying to be funny, or just being an annoying person, to have any business flagging people for trolling.
Then don’t worry about flagging trolls unless it is an outright attack on a member. That’s easy to tell. I saw one against poor Nick77 the other day.
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Well I have nothing against you. I personally have only flagged once in the 9 months I’ve been on the forum, on a suicide post. Don’t be too hard on yourself. I got a lot I could talk about that isn’t appropriate for the forum. The hard part is finding somewhere else to talk about it, with all boards I visit other than this one being pretty toxic. If I had a cat I’d talk to her about it! I bent my kitty’s ear all the time when she was alive.
I dunno… I don’t quite agree with that, if I’m honest. Maybe that’s part of my problem. I think that most everyone matters, and you’ve got to do something pretty goddamn awful to make me believe that you don’t.
Well, if you’re reading this and need to talk about something that you can’t discuss on the public forum, my inbox is always open. 
It’s meant to say that their opinion doesn’t matter. I think part of your problem is you take everything far too seriously and try to make everything more complicated than it it.
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@Sardonic. You come across to me as a very caring and thoughtful person. I wish more people were able to see past stuff that annoys them and recognize the human suffering underneath. Please don’t change that about yourself except, perhaps, to be able to recognize that you too are sometimes suffering and to afford yourself the same kindness and compassion that you afford others who are suffering. 
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Does that mean “talk to her?” I put my lips on my cat’s ears sometimes, and she gets my mom to kiss her paws. She views them as signs of affection. 
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LoL yes it’s a saying that means talk to her. I didn’t actually bend her ear 
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Hmm… Well, maybe you’re right. As I’ve developed my own sense of morality, I just feel that certain words or phrases are very serious, but I suppose they’re not always serious.
It’s okay. You will learn eventually how to tell. Some people never learn and take everything too seriously forever. Like the ultra-woke people who point out that every little thing is normal and good. A woman i know had a conversation where she was chastised for saying something about fetishes. The person was just too serious.
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Thank you @Moonbeam, such kind words.
The things that I’m struggling with at the moment have less to do with psychosis and more to do with the OCD that I thought I didn’t have, lol. I have really bad moral scrupulosity, or, to put it simply, a guilt complex.
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That sounds really annoying, lol. That’s not to say that all fetishes are wrong, but no, it’s actually not “normal” to be turned on by dirty socks, no offense (long story).
edit: I’m not judging, I’m just saying that most people (i.e. the norm) aren’t like that.
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I do wonder though, what makes some things sexual orientations and other things fetishes?
Fetishes are when the person is excited by things to the exclusion of all other stimuli. A lot of pe ople call kinks fetishes, but a true fetish is sexualizing a non-erotic thing and often to the poi t where they can’t get excited without it.
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