It’s awful. After breakup no one of two friends ever text me or invite somewhere- even though they know how awful I feel.
One of my friends which I have is in my life from my childhood. There were moments when she supported me, but now it seems relationship exists only because I text her. Our opinions are horrible different about war, it impacts our relationship, too. It seems she doesn’t give a ■■■■ about how I feel.
Another friend has uniquely energetic life. It seems she has no place for me in it. I am also the one who initiate the whole friendship.
I feel terrible. I would love to have atleast one friend which whom I could call or just meet and drink coffee. Cry on a shoulder.
I have this idea to end these two friendships with saying truth to those girls. I will say one day, that they truly didn’t cared.
Getting mad with them via text and “officially” cutting ties you think you will feel better? I don’t think so.
If the friendship has somewhat ended just let it be that way. Stop messagging, no need to open up a fight.
When u get older, you will avoid talking politics with anyone. That can ■■■■ up an otherwise good friendship. Especially if you know they disagree with you.
About finding new friends, you need them. Try online, or doing more activities you like. I believe there’s a friend’s app and you can meet in person later. Or FB groups.
My advice would be don’t focus on negatives in your life and count your blessings. Then you be more greatful to life and friends will apear to you in unexpected ways
I’ve found that as you grow older, your social circle diminishes anyways (even for normies!). I only have one friend I see IRL – but that’s okay. I do get my socialization “fix” at work and through family.
I’m 51 I have one friend left but she might go because I never get in touch. I’ve made lots friends through college and employment but lost them due to moving around and schizo . My advice is to look after yourself physically and mentally and take any opportunities. I also made friends through pen pals one lives in a near by city she’s the one I haven’t text for a while might text her on Monday
I don’t have friends but I am not lonely. My parents are actually like my friends. I talk to someone professionally weekly.
@anon8411913 you are so nice and friendly. You deserve the best. You are trying. You don’t deserve to be lonely in any way. You are very respectable and I would hate to see you desperate.
Me too, I’m with no friends now, my old friend group of 7 years didn’t end well, by me opening about my condition, I saw them change. Partly my fault partly theirs as relationships are a 2 way street.
Now I’m enjoying my own company until new friends come along. And this time I know what type of friends I want!
You’re right. I also think that it’s better to leave it the way it is. Maybe ignore them when they will text, that’s all. They truly don’t give a s*** about me during my hard period in life.
This is true.. but me, personally, I crave to have atleast one good friend in my life. I really hate feeling so lonely.
We’ve been for almost 3 years together but we split up. Nothing good in that. I feel terrible after the breakup. I don’t believe I will love someone as hard as I loved him.
Big thanks for such sweet words… I believe we all need someone more than family to have to talk to. Ofc family is one of the best things, but it’s always good to have a good, honest friend.
Hugs, @Dude1 maybe these friendships in my life are naturally coming to an end. I like to think so. Maybe some new people will appear.
Overall not long time ago I started communicating with my ex coworker. She’s way older than me, but we both initiate this friendship. Today I will call her.
Friends are people who are with each other till death does them part. Nothing will separate them. They have no secrets from each other. They won’t let each other suffer in any way. They accept each other in all ways. They help each other with anything that needs to change in each other’s life. Friends don’t condemn each other. Friends defend each other.