That was disappointing to me.
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Same as mine. 
I think that was a generational thing. My mom and dad had an agreement. She would raise the kids and he would earn money to support the family. That was common in those days.
Actually, I think children scared him. Kind of like an elephant scared by a mouse.
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I was just his retirement plan. But that obviously didn’t quite work out.
Yeah. Sometimes they act like they’re our responsibility.
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That’s all my parents have ever done.
Yeah my dad is the same way but I’ve come to accept him more. I think me doing better is the main culprit for my acceptance…otherwise I’d still hold a grudge if I was really struggling still.
I think turning the responsibility tables on children is one of the major causes of mental illness. Kids can soon get the delusion that they can fix things and that is a hell all its own.
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My dad provided food and shelter and then barked and snarled when he was upset and called that parenting. No love at all. I would give him 1 star as a father but he thinks he did great. He is as delusional as I am just for different reasons.
Dads are always emotionally unavailable or distant. My mother was the main breadwinner growing up.
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Well, look at the alternative. What if couldn’t have supported your family while you were growing up?
My mom wanted to work also, but my dad didn’t want to come home from work and do any household chores, so he told her NO.
After all us kids were grown, out of the house, my dad finally retired, at age 80,
then he told my mom since he wasn’t working anymore, she could get a job.
She told him NO.
He didn’t one year… Mother got a job.