Its something i have always struggled with. This particular freind is getting better and it is making me jealous.
Delete it.
Getting jealous is a waste of energy.
And Facebook is not life.
It’s just what they want you to see of it.
So you probably have nothing to be jealous of anyway.
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If you keep comparing yourself to others deleting fb and ig will do nothing for it.
And there’s less chance you will socialize imo
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Yeah im thinking of doing that. Most supposed friends on there are all fake anyway
Facebook is one of two things. It’s either look at me and see what I got or feel bad for me. 
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Your using social media as a means of comparison.
You should be using it as a means of communication.
Social media should be a tool to use for your benefit.
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Not only that im jealous of celebrities and the lifes they live and im also jealous of mothers with there babys it makes me feel bad.
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Then I think the problem is yours… not theirs.
Im not saying they have a problem i know i have a problem but it makes me feel depressed
Ostracizing yourself because you are jealous of people for w/e reason seems like a dumb plan.
Can you unfollow people or is it too tempting to check up on them?
Im very tempted to check up on them though
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I don’t have social media accounts anymore. If people had the power to make me feel that bad, then I didn’t want to be around them. Anyone that I kept up with irl was usually family, and I was happier sending a periodic text than pretending life is dandy. Most of my family is pretty great.
Sunnear O connor came to my mind when I read it…rest in peace.
Jealousy/envy serve a purpose to certain level. It can fuel you to take action on things you want to achieve. Sometimes makes you aware of what you would want to have.
But the way IG or FB work, they overwhelm you with it. You don’t need to know that your kindergarten friend is vacationing in country whose name they can’t seem to pronounce.
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Envy, jeloussy, anger maybe, I used to have those feelings while watching fb. But than I look at the experiences I had and I am gratefull for them. I look at the people I met and I am gratefull for them being in my life for a period of time.
And yes , I feel sorry my life sucks and I feel sorry for myself and I feel sorry for my situation, but I look back the way I behaved, the things I’ve done and I am ashamed. And I see the fb post of old friends with familly or excursions, being happy and smileing and a part of me is saying, they deserve it. And I feel more compasionate for myself.
I talk to thise friends and everybody were going trough different hard times. Not like me, but I’ve done thinhs I do regret deeply and in thw end somehow it gets down to this: they deserve it and I don’t. Knowing this comes acceptance, instead of envy, I try gratitude instead of jelousy, and compassion for self instead of angry towards others.
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I’m reconnecting with some people I knew in junior high when we were all in a gifted program together…
Them:
- Physicist
- Doctor in nuclear medicine
- Professor of Linguistics and PhD, Dean
Me:
- Doofus insurance broker
On the flip side, what I survived may have broken them. I’m still here and while I’m not at their level, I’m doin’ okay. Find some joy in the day you’re in.
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