I just texted my ex. And he was like he has been for 1,5 year, not giving a ■■■■. I don’t know why I have to text him, it is just like life is so empty without him. I’m Not in love with him neither was he good for me but I miss the feeling of being in love.
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With time you will find someone new and realise wow that previous relationship was nothing compared to this new relationship since this guy that you messaged is saying negative things.
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I Hope you’re right about that. For now I feel so addicted to the feeling of being in love. I even sent him a poem that I wrote to years ago when we were very much in love and he was just being polite
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Everyone loves to be in love, so don’t feel bad. Maybe try to find hobbies that make you feel good. Exercise is especially helpful for that because it gives you a rush and boosts your mood
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I always used to make the stupid mistake of texting my ex lol not any more last year I vowed I’d never do it again
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Did you succeed in not texting her/him
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Last thing I told my ex by text was that I have sz, she didnt reply. I found out that she went back with her ex before me but she indirectly told me that she will do it as she said I am not serious, I can’t work and pay rent to live with her, I don’t want kids and she wants kids, etc
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I stopped talking to her in 2016, before that was with her for 5yrs.
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Gosh, I have never read a more relatable thread title. And i have been there. Clearly not loving them anymore but being lonely enough to want the good times back.
It helped me to change their contact info in my phone to my best friend (which I told her I was doing in advance) so that when i drunk texted them it wentto her instead and she could remind me of the reasons we broke up.
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Well I kinda understand how you feel. I can’t work e, and if I have known I someday would develop psychosis I wouldn’t want Kids either.
My ex boyfriend is schizophrenic as well and we have had lots of problems with each other
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I’ve tried to block my ex on my Phone/Facebook and so on, but I’m so stupid that when I’m drunk I’ll just lift the block or even look him up on the internet when I’ve deleted his number (yes I really do that)
And yes, I’m not in love with him any more but I miss the Time when I was. I even miss the feeling of him being in love with me.
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That’s the beauty of changing the name instead of deleting it. Your brain might know that it’s been changed, but it could trick yoy just long enough to accidentally send the SOS to your friend instead. Or change the number to your own so you get the message and then see how stupid it is.
Hahah well for me it’s been like 10 years so it was pretty stupid at that point. I mean we talked but idk thinks didn’t go well
So its been 10 years now since you’d last talk
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No but 10 years since we actually dated
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Okay so she must have made a very deep impresion on you?
I sure Hope that I’m not still texting my ex 10 years from now
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Actually I don’t know the point in texting him. Given that he doesn’t care and I’m not getting Any satisfaction from it.
Haha yea we’ll I used to believe people were destined for each other. Now I’m 30 (middle aged for me) and kinda given up on that idea lol I think luck and circumstance play in these things idk. It’s difficult to speak about destiny and free will and stuff
Can we say “it was gods will” whatever happens? Hmm I don’t think so actually. So maybe it is possible to marry the wrong person, and I don’t know if people are made “for each other” all people don’t get along 100%. Also I feel like it’s almost possible to love anyone and eventually love them deeply.
I do believe in love just not that all love was “destined”, although maybe God can have a will for who we marry.
Sorry for the long post just thinking out loud haha 
I think we’ve all been there Flowerpot!
Its so easy to do in a moment of desperation.
Just make sure you don’t get back with them as it sounds like you realise they are not a good match for you.
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I go with luck and circumstances LOL. No I also believed that my ex and I were destinied for each other, but not Any more.
I do believe it has a lot to do with Who you are and then Who you meet and then again People Will change over the years and maybe they wont fit together aftenr personal changing because they Will just grow in different directions. Like you said.
But it is sad when you realise that you’re No longer compatible with some one you used to love.
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