So I’ve been dating for a few months. Even the last guy, I had just met him the next thing we know we’re talking about sex. OMG I can’t believe I just sent him inappropriate pics. I feel disgusting. Do symptoms sometimes linger on even when you’re on meds? In my case I had become so hypersexual even the pdoc had told me to use the vibrator once a day how weird. I don’t of course even though I should. I feel disgusting but I can’t stop. I had to tell the guy to block me. We both wanted it but we both knew it was wrong thing to do. I don’t sleep around (i have only slept with someone once in my 31 years and that was last month to a casual relationship) but I feel absolutely filthy.
I’m totally opposite of you. Since starting Risperdal my libido has dropped to zero. Have you talked to your pdoc about putting you on a medication that might even out these urges?
I’m real hypersexual and it’s very annoying
You’re male right? On risperdal I could masturbate, although difficult, I reached climax and nothing came out. Risperdal is notorious for sexual sideaffects. It’s why I stopped it, otherwise thought it was a great med.
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Yes, I’m a male. I can’t seem to do anything on it. In fact, I have no urges at all. My pdoc has put me on Wellbutrin. She says it will help even me out. We’ll see.
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Respiradone killed my libido. Was awful - major droopage.
I was way worse without the mood stabaliser, not sure if there is anything more that can help
Be extremely careful about sending pics, not because they are dirty, but because they could end up posted on the internet. That can lead to a lot of grief. I don’t see what could be wrong with sex, as long as both of you know what the other one expects, especially if you both want it.
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How come I never meet girls like you? It would solve a lot of my problems.
What do you mean? Like sluts.
I think you should ask yourself why do you feel “disgusting” and “filthy”?
It is perfectly normal to have sexual urges and as long as you keep it safe it is perfectly okay to make it happen.
I don’t see a problem here except that your introjected moral norms put a pressure on you as if you are guilty for being human.
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humans are sexual beings. 31 yrs you have nothing to be ashamed or disgusted about. Sounds like you are fighting yourself over wants versus beliefs. You have started coming into the sexual prime for women so it is normal to be wanting more. As long as you practice safe, you’re okay. You’re normal.
Just like others said be careful about pics. You don’t have control over what others do with them. So best to not to take chances with that.
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I was basically kidding. I don’t think of you as a s*ut. My dad told me when I was 19, Quote, “Women are sexual creatures”. Just like men.
look… you gotta learn to be more reserved. If that’s the first thing a guy starts talking about you should be able to clearly see that is his primary interest. There are a lot of guys and girls out there who are just interested in sex… if you are looking for something more legitimate your better off bring patient and waiting for a man who is looking for the same thing as you… they are out there as well.
It’s tough to feel reject and secondarily tough to reject someone do to empathy… you don’t want to hurt anyone. You want to feel liked and you don’t want to feel alone… all reasons to go ahead and let these less genuine types into your life… but if it’s making you feel as you’ve described then it should be pretty clear that the world of casual sex aint for you. People play up their charm and sex appeal to make it happen before they move on… they will even lie and indicate that they might value something more to get what they want from you and then leave you in the dust… that’s when the heart-break sets in…
Really… you are sweet and beautiful ish… you need to find someone who is like-minded and willing to help you with your burdens. Sex ain’t the foundation of a relationship… it’s more of a benefit. There are a whole echelon of other benefits to a relationship as well. Unfortunately seeming half of the world can trust or feel satisfied with those thing… like a closer to platonic sense of physical closeness… actual love… trust in commitment… stability… sort of implied and inherent inevitable mutual boredom unless both involved are doing what they can to keep the sparks alive…
I mean most people have been heart-broken and abandoned to the point where it is more reasonable to give up on dating and focus on living for themselves and they get their sex… and should only get their sex from like minded folk… unfortunately it’s blurred lines everywhere and no one can really tell who or why they’re going to fall into attraction to someone or why some folk stand out or what they have to do to get close to them… for whatever end they’re seeking.
Lot’s of players out there just want to have sex with you to throw another notch on their bed post… I don’t think that’s for you. You need to find a humble and reasonable man who is constructive and willing to support you. So be humble yourself and constructive for yourself… and that guy out there who is looking for a healthy thing is going to be attracted to it.
Take care ish… and good luck… sharks and leeches everywhere… but that doesn’t mean that good people have perished and chivalry is dead. There are still some who are willing to aim a bit higher at being a decent person for someone else… and a lot of those folks are damn proud to be that type of dependable person… (cause honestly from our side it’s just kind of weak to be self-serving… and it’s kind of totally fucked up everyone’s life at one point or another that the self-serving types are out there only thinking about themselves.)
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I uh would argue that those moral norms are just as psychologically healthy for some if not most (hence the norm part of it)… as it is to disregard moral norms for others.
if casual sexual intercourse doesn’t make you disgusting and dirty… then good for you… cause… for some of us it really does… you can trust me on that because I’ve disregarded anything and everything anyone has ever said (at least for a time before I understand why it’s right) 
but I see what you are doing… @anon80629714 you don’t need to dwell on it or beat yourself… we all make mistakes. they help us learn about ourselves…
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@azley there is a difference between not wanting a casual sex because you don’t want it period and beating yourself because you want it but feel like you shouldn’t.
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I’m sorry it’s just not something I relate too… every experience I’ve had in that regard has been mostly unsatisfying.
I also am speaking from a relatively inappropriate bias that winces in pain as I see the concept of monogamy dying in light of this self-pleasing self-loathing directionless exchange where the overall sexual experience is belittled and devalued basically for everyone… because arousal-plateau-climax… is really only the tip of the ice-berg between the romantic potential of two human individuals ability to find a fulfilling time together.
I’m just dead tired of all the subtle encouragements in the culture and life experience out there that push people away from that concept and more towards just bumping heads and genitals with everybody…
I’m probably out of line… but that’s how I feel. Does it really belong here… prolly not… but do I personally just want to say that somewhere… yeah gotta say I do. No one else seems to stand up for that ■■■■ anywhere and I would hate for ish here to be only shown one side of how to post-process her experience in only one way… It takes time for anyone to really sort out how they feel about all this stuff…
You raise a good point though… if they both wanted it and no-one was being a home-wrecker… than it’s totally cool I guess.
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Being new to sex and Bipolar. Might help to look up Hyper sexuality. It’s common in Bipolar.
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Sounds like you’re not asexual afterall ish 
That’s alright, nothing to be ashamed about.
But yeah, hypersexuality is terrible really, can really ruin the chances for a good relationship. Be careful with that.
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What the hell is he playing at? Told me he’d delete and block me like we both agreed. Now I’ve been added on Snapchat? What the hell?