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Im feeling overwhelmed with everyday life.

Same thing every day:

  • wake up
  • cook breakfast/make coffee
  • help my daughter eat breakfast
  • clean kitchen
  • play with daughter
  • exercise
  • cook lunch
  • help daughter eat lunch
  • clean kitchen again
  • shower
  • give daughter bath
  • laundry
  • some other cleaning thing
  • give daughter snacks
  • make dinner
  • help daughter eat dinner
  • put daughter to bed (takes at least an hour)
  • clean kitchen AGAIN…

I literally can’t seem to get a moment to clean anything else but the freaking kitchen.
I’m busy all day and have nothing to show for it.
The place looks like I do nothing all day…
On top of that, I already feel like I clean too much and don’t spend enough time with my daughter.

I don’t know what to do.

I’m feeling spacey and can’t think clearly.
I am struggling to drive lately I feel too. Ugh.

Am I just overwhelmed?
I feel like I shouldn’t be… I get to stay home all day and don’t have a regular job…

But idk what else could be going on.

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Why do you clean the kitchen 3 times a day? Maybe do it once at the end of the day if you feel you have to do it every day.

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Because everything gets dirty every time I cook and I’m cooking 3 meals a day for 4 of us.

If I save it all for the end of the day, I get behind and have to do more than 1 load of dishes…

Idk, I’m terrible at time management/organizing at home.

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I dont know how I can advise you how to manage your time in a way that would be less frustrating for you, but I am sorry you are overwhelmed. I have felt that way at certain times in recent months as well, myself. Sorry @Wonderer .

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Ok. How long does it take to clean the kitchen each time? Are you just cleaning pots and pans and plates?

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I don’t even pay attention.

Yeah- pots, pans, plates and wiping down the counters.

I’m guessing at least half an hour each time?

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It’s all good @Bowens

Maybe what I’m complaining about is trivial.. but I am really struggling with this unfortunately.

You hang in there!

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How old is your daughter? I’ve forgotten

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She is 3 years old

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You’re doing an awful lot per day. I’d be completely overwhelmed if I was doing what you’re doing per day.

Are you getting enough sleep? Do you have some “me time” after your daughter goes to sleep?

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Ok. For more time spent together, make cleaning the kitchen a game. I used to do this. Let her stand on a chair and help. She can help wipe counters, and help wipe off dishes.

I recommend cleaning the kitchen after breakfast and dinner only.

Clean other things (pick 1 room a day) after lunch.

I did this with my daughter and niece and nephew when I had all 3 little ones

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Don’t feel guilty for feeling overwhelmed. It is what it is…you’re doing your best and it looks to me like you prioritize your family. I think you’re doing great!

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You can put on children’s music and sing along while cleaning together

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You are brilliant!

@LilyoftheValley

That’s a really helpful suggestion!

Thank you! :grin:

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No problem. I’m experienced. Happy to help!

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Probably not enough sleep..

And I do not have me time after she goes to bed..

Unless you count listening to music on my headphones while I do dishes lol.

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If you did less maybe a little less not a lot less you would feel better. But I guess you have to do what you are doing??

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:folded_hands:

Thanks again.

I’ll have to try having her help tomorrow.

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That’s not good. That could be contributing to feeling “spacey” as you put it. Lack of sleep can catch up on you. See if you can go to bed earlier for a while maybe?

See if you can figure out how to get some me time. You need breaks.

As others have said, you’re doing an amazing job. But you need to look after yourself too.

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That’s a superb idea :light_bulb: !

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