That’s what I’m talking about. I constantly compare myself too. 
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She is a nurse, and she has schizophrenic patients. She is constantly telling me that it’s a different disease, and she is honestly impressed I am even able to shower and get dressed every day. But I like self-flagellation. Anything to remind me I’m an awful person.
I want kids very badly. I think I would do a great job taking care of them, since I can take care of my students and nieces just fine. My only worry is that I won’t be able to wake up in the middle of the night with a baby.
Mr. Star?
His thoughts?
We have a two year plan to have kids. After the house is paid off and I’m done with school. He is hoping hard for redheads. We have about a 50% chance, because of my mom.
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You can still adopt with schizophrenia. I was looking into fostering to adoption and the government had no issue with my sz as long as it was controlled and I was med compliant.
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I never wanted kids when I was growing up, then I got pregnant (but he was stillborn) and everything changed. I wanted a baby so bad after that. Took me almost 10 years to get there, but I just had my daughter this year. It takes all me energy and a lot out of me, but it’s worth it to me because I know as she gets more independent it’ll get easier. It’s still my biggest fear that she’ll have a childhood like mine and she’ll suffer with mental illness, but I think I’ll be better about seeing it and getting her help than my parents were.
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most of the problems i the world would be improved if people stopped having kids environmentally it’s just another ■■■■ in another river EVERYDAY…
I’m female when I wa 15 I had to look after 3 kids one 2 year old a six year old a nine year old…
After that summer I knew I nev wanted kids…
They’re hard work …
And push all your buttons…
I’m sure lie me you’d have made an excellent mother…
WIthout this illness…
In the words of my old sis who has 2 kids Dandydinmot kids are crap.
We all want offspring to continue our spirit. But we don’t have the resources to give them the life they need. The last thing we want is to give them a life of scarcity. One option I have considered is moving to an intentional community and help the kids there.
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I would need a girl to do that, and I’ve proven my inability to communicate with girls many times.
Maybe I can act like I’m “on the prowl”, then nobody will know that I have no friends and no social competence.
Kids might have sz! That would be irresponsible in my opinion. I would feel bad imparting something so negative.
If the kids aren’t gonna have the chance at normal life maybe I should keep my sperms to myself.
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If one parent has sz the offspring only has a 13-15% chance of transmitting it actually. It jumps to 50% chance if both parents have it.
Even if my child did end up getting my illness I know I would give them all the resources and support they needed and never got growing up as I understand…but I would never wish the suffering of depression on them.
Out of the 6 kids in my family, 2 of us have psychosis but only I have depression as far as I’m aware…
Still I just don’t feel I have the capability to give my all to children. And during episodes I can be completely inaccessible and isolate myself, which would be hurtful to my children…
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Sz is unpredictable, the parent could have minimal symptoms and the child could be completely dysfuctional or treatment resistant. If the kid can’t work, socialize, or enjoy life and ends up living the rest of their life in medical care they might wish they had never been born. I’m not a perfect case myself, plenty of times I have been suicidal and blamed my dad for having the bad genes and giving me this life struggle.
I would just feel so responsible, and that would weigh on me every day of my life. And like you I very easily get caught up in my own circumstances when I am manifesting symptoms, someone who is like this cannot care, protect, nurture etc while in this state.
Maybe if I spontaneously get better or go into remission at some point I might consider adoption. But they have to make sure you’re a fit parent and mental illness makes that kinda iffy.
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John Nash’s son had worse schizophrenia than him from what I read. He couldn’t take the no meds approach like dad.
Though I’m not sure if I’m remembering right, but he did pretty well for himself. He got some of his dad’s brilliance.
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I’m doing well with my sz love my kids. But I really think if you can’t take care of yourself very well you should probably get your kid fix another way.
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It’s a blessing both ways- to have children and to not have children.
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I don’t think my partner and I will have kids. We talked about adoption, but we have financial problems for now.
I would have had kids without my possession and if there was a much smaller chance of them having their faces incinerated by a nuclear blast in world war 3.
And if they weren’t facing a lifetime of slavery as well.
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lmao pan your title
This honestly used to be a bigger concern for me than passing on schizophrenia. I was terrified of this. I still am, to some extent. But I think the risks are worth it now. My mom and dad almost didn’t have kids for the same reason. They didn’t want us to have to live to see the end of days. But we all managed to grow up without experiencing a single apocalypse, so there is probably hope for my kids too.
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It’s not my choice, they went into my account and gave it to me
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Seriously?? Wha??