What if I truly want the very best for my lover
So that means
… Freedom
To love
Whom they want
How they want
Could this work?
Then maybe I can’t get jealous
Possessive
Etc
If I truly want the best for them
But I will only love
Them 
I mean him
I was thinking this might work
As long as they like me too.
As long as I feel I’m not being abused
What’s the problem then?
Why do we feel like it should just be one man and one woman usually
It feels more special. But why?
If anyone has an answer that would be awesome
As long as I feel good about myself then him flirting with other woman should not be a problem or?
Or even just being attracted to other woman.
It’s not like I don’t get attracted to other men too.
So I just need to give the gift of freedom within reason if he is with me
Like if he’s gonna have kids with other women
For instance
I ain’t going to pay for them
Or be part of their lives
I can’t have too much responsibility cos I’m a worrier
OK I’m getting excited so basically I’m emotionally investing into another person
I do remember an Einstein quote
A. Life not lived for another or others is a life not worth living…
Thanks guys for letting me think this through I’m getting the feeling of life in me very slowly. But it’s early days so need to do some more thinking on this or watever
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Feeling a bit lonely today mate? Seen both of your new topics.
Stop worrying - if your nice enough, your fella / woman will appear, without you trying too hard.
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Hey thanks for the kind advice.
Yea I’m lonely a lot these days
I ended it with some guy
Think it was too early days to be with someone.
But now I’m stuck here on the forum instead lol
Since I have no friends
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There are many reasons most people prefer 1 to 1 relationships.
It’s easier to love and concentrate on one person. If there are many parts involved it can get messy with quarrels about all sorts of things.
Many people are emotionally uncapable of loving many people at the same time. It would be confusing.
It’s unsafe. People can pass stds between them. This is under control if two people are faithful to eachother.
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Just make sure you’ve got someone who is not a conniver and who is not likely to take advantage/abuse you. Find out all you can about this guy before you commit to him.
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The main reason that I prefer to give freedom is cos I have trust issues.
I fear being lied to.
I like to think that I will remain their main love interest and if I’m not I will feel it…
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Thankyou that’s really good advice too. 
…What if they want to love only you?
You’re assuming that your hypothetical future partner’s gonna wanna love someone else.
I know you’ve had some bad experiences in the past, but there truly are people out there who are only interested in one person and want to share their life with that one individual.
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Trust issues - I feel that. I’m locked up against that, and let very few in. Very few.
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I see.
Well…people are different. There is no rulebook how to do things.
For my part if I loved someone and they were unfaithful to me it would break my heart and destroy what we had together. I couldn’t give them freedom because I wouldn’t want them to be with anyone else, that would just be the same.
I guess I would seek out someone a bit conservative where sex and wanting multiple romance wasn’t dominant in their lives. But that’s just me.
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