‘what if they want to love only me?’
I Don’t know how to answer that
I will get back to you because that is a question I need to think about.
Because even if they may only want to love me, my difficulty alone in believing that, or being certain about that rather, may make them end up being interested in other/s, ie sort of drive them away a bit from one to one…
But if I just invest my love on that person… They may end up feeling the same… Or not.
Yes, that’s a good point for sure.
Sometimes our own insecurities can drive others away… It’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Yea I feel the same way Mr hope… :
IDEALLY, I would like it to be just me and a man.
But since that’s not something I can guarantee when I have fear of being lied to issues, instead I got to be accepting of an alternative situation where I give freedom.
But enjoy the idea that it could just be me, especially if I feel that way from how he is towards me.
If I feel I’m being treated as second best or not an equal then I know I’m not what he needs in his life because I’m a firm believer in fairness
You could trying to hold back on intimacy for a while when dating. If they are really interested they will stick around to get to know you, and if not they will move on.
That’s my 10cents.
This idea of freedom is not good actually.
Because for example when I see my sister he could be flirting with her for all I know, or her next boyfriend.
So this is how I summarise the feelings atm
Unless it’s an open relationship?
I just honestly feel every guy would rather be with my sister.
I get really dark thoughts.
I would never act on them.
I’m not talking sinister thoughts like killing etc
Just wonder how different life would be if she didn’t exist
Clearly I need to find a solution because I want to feel I can have a healthy relationship with her
And somehow also be in a loving relationship with a man
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