I am at a loss and do not know what to do

I have been dealing with my Son mental Illness since Jun 2015 and he has been in and out of Hospital in different States. The longest stay between Hospital and Facility was in california where he was conserved for 2 and 1/2 years.
he got somehow better after he was discharged from California Conservatorship and he was discharged to be with a family friend but he started cutting his medicine there then he came to stay with me in MidWest and he kept reducing his medicine but still was doing OK until March of 2021, he behavior started really changing and becoming more aggressive toward me. I call 911 a couple of times but there was no bed for him Due to COV 19 demands on the hospital beds & also doctor convinced me to take him back.
in Agust, he stole my credit card and took a trip to Las Vegas to see a friend and get into argument with his friend and ended up Homeless for a few days in Las Vegas. I got him help ( called 911) and he was hospitalized for 14 days in Las Vegas and traveled to get him. I had a miserable time during Travel.
When we get home, he refused to take his medicine and when I was trying to convince him to take the meds he hit me really hard on my right Arm and he was talking to me in a very bad language. I called 911 and asked them to take him to a different hospital and he stayed there for 35 days. He was calling me every day trying to negotiate with me and he promised to take his medicine after he is discharged.
during his last Hospitalization, nurses caught him spitting his meds for few times and Pdoc told him that it does not take it, he will stay in Hospital longer. So he took it so he can be discharged.
Now, he is out of the hospital and cutting his medicine and refusing to go to Therapy & refusing to take his 2nd monthly Invega shot in November. he keeps saying that he was never sick.
I am trying to crash his pill meds in food and coffee to the best of my ability but I know that he will go down in a few months and would require hospitalization.
I have the option to Court order him but I know after that he will not be compliant on meds after he is discharged like all the previous 15+ times
The court order treatment is a very hard process for me and makes me highly anxious.
What woud you do if you are in My place? would you Court Order him knowing that he will probably stay in hospital a Maximum of 14 to 20 days and that is not enough to make him well?
OR Keep crashing the meds and see if he gets better with time ?
I know Antiphyscitic meds take a long time to make an impact.

PLEASE HELP, I am suffering tremendously and the holidays are around the corner.
I hope God helps me through this process. I am in a tough place in my life

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I’d like to encourage you to join our forum for Family and Caregivers that can be found at:

While this is a peer support forum for people with schizophrenia and other closely related psychotic disorders, the Family forum is specifically for people like yourself, who have a loved one they are concerned about.

Also, please let your loved one know about this forum as they may find it helpful.

Best of luck,

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I am sorry you’re dealing with this. I would also suggest friends and family forum. My family took care of me when I was not feeling well.

Don’t put meds in his food and drinks, my parents did that and I became even more angry at my parents and went living on my own in another continent. It just makes things worse. I think your best bet is court ordered meds.

I will consider your sggestion Aziz.