And thrive that way.
How can I become less dependent on making friends.
I don’t really have any.
How to be happy with my own company, with no boyfriend and no friends?
Ideas?
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In the end you really can’t. I’m a loner wrestling with the same questions.
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What about family?
I myself like to compete in things. If I didn’t have my parents to take care of and had money I would be competing in things like RC car racing and motorcycle racing and bicycle racing and maybe playing in some music bands
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Everyone needs some basic human interaction. I don’t think people are social animals or anything like that. It’s natural for someone who exists to be around others who are tied to their existence. I can get by with very little interaction, but it is nice to have someone around whenever I become outgoing.
It’s a strange situation to be in not being social but at the same time needing some. It is like someone who considers themselves asexual, but does get an odd sexual impulse, but cannot maintain a sexual relationship based on that alone.
Wanting to be alone because people are crap a lot of the time and your own company is better some of the time, puts you in a situation where you are a little deprived. I’m trying to find someone perfect who basically wants to be alone, but needs minimal contact but is also interested in the same things.
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Yes I’m happy to have family. I wasn’t clear, meant aside from that.
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Yes, not easy to find, but it does sound ideal.
Good luck.
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Thanks.
As for your problem in the OP, maybe it would help to kind of develop a self-centred, independance personal belief system. Write it up using a few philosophical concepts and maybe it will empower you to be independant, but then ironically convert your dream friend into believing it and become besties.
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Haha! Thankyou…
Yes I do think I NEED to be alone atm. Try to Get my own self esteem working, understand what I enjoy, yes, including philosophically or such.
And then I think it becomes easier to attract a friend who is somehow on the same wavelength. Or two.
I’m glad I have my family at least we have a support watsapp grp
Do you have any friends at all?
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I think I was born schizo. Even as a kid Iwould walk around the playground alone at recess, not being able to play with any of the kids. At school I was smart but couldn’t function. Then in late adolescence I had psychosis.
I’ve always been alone. I’ve had friends, but never too many. I don’t like groups. I’m aloof or some word like that.
I don’t have any friends right now.
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Look for common leisure or hobbies where you meet a different range of people.
It’s hard to meet others of the opposite sex but there are groups where you run into people.
Like honestly. I’m thinking of going to local political party meetings this year. Like don’t really need to but a sugar mama would be good moving forward 
…But on the serious side I don’t work so don’t meet women so a political party meeting is something where at least I’m meeting those I’m interested in.
So. Friends are important but I’ve too many friends from years ago so I really want to meet those of opposite sex…but still same rules apply!
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If not working and looking for love at political parties mind the politics and hang a left at green
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Spend most of your time on a hobby. Othrwise you’ll always notice your lack of friendship
That’s worked for me at least
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That’s interesting I prefer a same sex friend.
I wish you good luck with that.
It’s nice you have an interest like that, it’s good to nurture passions and interests I agree with you.
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Just meeting others of the opposite sex would be nice with same political views. Like I’m no catch. I’m 53 and on a disability pension. I was just joking but still. It would be nice to meet older people of the same ilk…I have an active social life with friends and family but doing really well lately so keen to see how far I can take it!
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Thankyou 
Do you have friends in your family though
I have my younger brothers, and i have one or two family friends but not really cos they kind of ignore me.
The bulk of my socialising is with my younger brothers, yeah
I don’t find it any different. You look for interests or things that bind you together. Like my friends like me because we are all pretty similar. Most of my friends are a little different from the norm so that suits me well and why we hang together after decades…
All’s I’m saying. Look at things or activities you may like or enjoy and do them…you meet like minded people. You find friends and influence people at the same time so you get good or great friends who you keep for life.
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I find it different because with men, there’s a risk of falling in love n I don’t want to. Also with women I generally tend to feel more comfortable. But that doesn’t mean I might not find an awesome male friend or 2 one day. But I’m just tired of falling in love and infatuation etc. It’s not good for my mental health. Etc.
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On a plus side,
I do have a group therapy I attend weekly. This is good because it’s company but not friends.
It’s an art therapy group 
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Yeah totally understand but things like I’m suggesting are clubs/organisations where you meet like minded people. You don’t have to date them just be engaged by them and find some company.
I’m very lucky in that I still talk to many people I met back in school but I’m just very, very social and always have been.
I can understand your hesitation but you can start with communities local where it works so you don’t have to commit to them. Just turn up and see if it’s a fit for you…It’s a wide world these days so you can do hobby time and friend time too!
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