How much do you think their parenting affected you. Do you think it’s mostly genetic and you would have gotten it either way or do you think they really screwed you up?
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I think my psychosis developed because of too much stress and maybe because I was drinking as a teenager so my dad with his pressure on studies didn’t help
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I don’t think I would have got schizophrenia if it weren’t for my parents. They are to blame as far as I’m concerned.
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Loads. I identify a lot with the idea that children who experience persistent anxiety are more likely to develop psychosis later in life. Even when I was still very little, some of my earliest memories are me hating my Dad and even when I was like 5 I remember actively trying not to adopt his speaking patterns because I didn’t want to be like him. He was always making fun of people or raising his voice.
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That’s an old theory from the 1950’s and 1960’s that parents caused their child’s schizophrenia. It’s since been debunked though a hostile or stressful home environment can make some symptoms worse.
As far as I know neither of my parents experienced psychosis, but both were diagnosed bipolar. Considering I have schizoaffective disorder, bipolar type, I’d say genetics played a major role in me developing my illness.
As a young child, between living with two unmedicated bipolar parents and a psychopathic sociopath for an older brother, I lived in constant fear and stress anytime I was at home. This continued until I was ten years old and my living situation changed; my life got dramatically better, until psychosis and depression hit me when I was around 14-15 years old.
I also have PTSD associated primarily with my childhood, but I can’t help but feel like my older brother is partly responsible for me going on to develop chronic psychosis. Sick, twisted ■■■■
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In the early 2000’s there was no knowledge of psychosis in my family
after my hospitalisations the first few times in the early days I ditched mental health team at the first opportunity
but even though I was getting really sick I did not let anyone help me And I was over 18 by time it relapses
Same with ne @everhopeful .
The unfair cruel abusive treatment of me is traumatic.
Being hated and psychological torture, molested ,raped , mocked ,ridiculed, neglected n starved to malnutrition at one point and who one is taken from one and pretending to be fair and loving and nice when opposite but getting everyone against me beyond flying monkeys .
Destroying g and ruining me as wanted .
Treating others so well and constant praise of them and constant criticism of me.
Not valuing me or appreciate me but want be me or steal who I am n all my riches .
OPressing me .
Bullying me in psychological ways academic intellectual way with whole communities.
Way I’ve been treated is disgusting abusive n beyond abusive .
I was conditioned or raised as well as my gentle nature that I have to take all the abuse and love unconditionally and never set boundaries etc
And it took me 47 years to say I don’t think these people deserve access to me when all they do is disrespect and hate on me nd attack ne while pretending to be fair snd nice and amazing admirable perfect people .
I can send a Christmas card n birthday card .perhaps.
Not much other contact or none.
They destroyed me.
Never loved me but pretended to.
Even faked photos to make look ways weren’t true.
I loved them but after how I was treated I dont want them to have real access to me n all I am anymore as such.
47 years not been able to feel like myself n be my true self in true eyes n aura n energy n nature because they wanted to take my holiness etc n who I am so they feel like me etc
Self respect and reclaim self may be helped by no contact or strong boundaries.
Hopefully great healing can take place.
Unfortunately these people are somewhat wealthy and educated and friends with strip club owners and judges and prime ministers etc so when they incite hate and bullying and exclusion its all against me almost.
N weak flying monkeys can go fck emselvezzz.
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My mom has OCD. My dad had schizophrenia and was epileptic
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Not my parents fault.
But I was bullied and under a lot of stress which triggered it.
My mom showed me how to take it easy with SZ and be thankful for whatever I have. My dad showed me how to work hard and be responsible and overcome SZ. Both were and are my best role models in life. Their high morality and standards and faith made me think they stressed me out too much with these things and made my SZ worse. But all the stress we went through was worth it and I only remember the fun times we had. They gave me all the chances in life that I wanted and needed. From always having a roof over my head and food and healthcare to being fully dependant on my self with a marriage and family and home and financial freedom. I chose the middle between my parents. They did all they could for me their son with SZ. And it was enough. The stress that they put on me that made my SZ worse was everywhere in this world. I believe SZ is a genetic medical issue. If my parents did not stress my SZ out the world would do it also. The world is a stressful place. I used to blame my stressful upbringing to my lack of success with SZ. Now I realize it was best to stay with my parents stressful upbringing then try to escape it so my SZ won’t be so bad or worse. I found out whoever I am with in life will be just as stressful or more than my parents were. My parents had mercy and concerns for me that I would not have from others. They did not abuse me physically and they did not use drugs or alcohol and where very proper with each other and me with the issue of sex.I no longer blame my stressful upbringing for making me suffer more from my SZ. I now respect my stressful upbringing because I see this same stress everywhere in the world. Life is very expensive and I realize people are very stressful everywhere. I no longer blame my parents after I see the rest of the world. I see my stressful upbringing as honorable now. I thought if I had kids I would never stress them out like my parents did. And they would never have SZ because I would not stress them at all. But now I understand my parents fully. I wish I can honor my parents now. Totally honor them instead of totally blame them for they did nothing wrong but were dealing with very stressful situations themselves.
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There are so many theories and studies on what causes schizophrenia, and what triggers it, that I prefer not to try to worry about the exact causes/triggers.
I personally believe that gene combinations usually play a big role, but outside of that, I have no desire to try to sort out all the other potential causes and/or triggers.
Edit: And I did used to…but I have moved on beyond that point.
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For me,it’s a complex issue. My parents were far from perfect,but they weren’t abusively terrible parents.The truth is their situation growing up, was one where,as adults, both wanted to dominate rather than being dominated.
I had a stepwise decline in my ability to cope and function in a predominantly neurotypical world. Going to boarding school was the worst thing possible for a then undiagnosed autistic child and teenager. It was the done thing for children whose fathers were diplomats. Diplomats that would be posted abroad. Would the bullying have never occurred if I went to a day school? The answer based on late diagnosed adults who never went to boarding school is that I would have been bullied- irrespective of where I went to school.
I do think that psychologically it’s easier to have parents you can easily define as good or bad. The mix of emotions about parents like mine, some positive some very negative , is very hard to handle.
I think my daughter has defined things perfectly. Schizophrenia/schizoaffective as a secondary condition/illness(describe it as you will) triggered by the stresses and strains of being an undiagnosed autistic child and teenager. I think that even if my parents had been perfect role models as parents I would still have developed schizophrenia/schizoaffective.
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Major impact. My genes show an average risk of developing schizophrenia. I think environmental factors contributed the most. I don’t think my parents were prepared to be parents. I think parents need a parenting course, to ensure their kids can be successful and independent. People shouldn’t have children irresponsibly, when they aren’t going to be trying to bring up children to be independent and successful. I think my parents idea of having children was selfish and childish.
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My parents had zero to do with my sza. Although bipolar runs rampant on my mom’s side of the family. It was a point of contention if my grandpa was sza or bipolar with psychotic features, but he died at 52 when I was a wee lad so I couldn’t ask him myself.
The only family member who was officially diagnosed with schizophrenia is a distant cousin who passed away recently.
My dad was identified as the main stress which contributed to my Schizophrenia.
If bad parents gave you schz everyone would have it
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Major impact. My genes show an average risk of developing schizophrenia. I think environmental factors contributed the most. I don’t think my parents were prepared to be parents. I think parents need a parenting course, to ensure their kids can be successful and independent. People shouldn’t have children irresponsibly, when they aren’t going to be trying to bring up children to be independent and successful. I think my parents idea of having children was selfish and childish. I brought up my daughter, as an unwed mother, to be way more successful than my married parents who had more family support, did. They had more children to care for, but people shouldn’t have too many children, than they can care for. My parents should have waited for their second marriages most likely. They were too immature to responsibly care for children.
I think my upbringing made me less confident, but stress from people later was worse, because I didn’t develop it until 35. Of course a lot of people I met when I was young, thought I was nuts, because I was so insecure.
Let’s see, both my abuela (grandmother), and my father were undiagnosed sza’s. My mother almost died of pre eclampsia while pregnant with me. I was born during a most terrible winter storm in February 1960 in Nebraska. I have a lifelong pot smoking history starting at age 17. My father was a pedophile, a child beater and a mental abuser. My husband was a rapist, a wife beater and an emotional abuser. Also, I owned cats almost my entire life. Also, when I was at my sickest, I had extremely stressful jobs like telemarketing and nursing. What do you think?