How many of you had never been in a relationship?

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I have been in a few relationships in my teens, but the girl I lost my virginity to and loved without boundaries decided one day to tell me she was coming over and never showed up, never called me back, just disappeared from my life. It was after that I became SZ. Since then I’ve dated a 40 year old woman for a few weeks and she got pregnant and cut off all contact with me. That was in 2007-08. Nothing since then. I’d like to meet my perfect match but maybe I’m better off alone idk.

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Maybe it’s your choices in life that probably make you single,I comment this because I feel I choose to earn more money and had a safe future by working 11.5hrs a day and 6 days a week which is around 69hrs a week and it’s been since I was 17 till now 24,never been in a relationship because of my bad choices?

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I don’t think it’s a bad choice to have a job and make money (though you wouldn’t know that from the guys I’ve dated, who were unemployed or barely employed). I’ve been single since 2008(I went on a few dates with a guy last fall). I want to get married someday and have kids. I don’t think anyone should lose hope if that’s what they want. That’s why we come here to get support from others.

There’s a lot of collective relationship wisdom here. I’m experienced in online dating to some extent. This can be a journey that we go through together. I know I’ll ask for help when I need it. It takes a village to get you laid.

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I’m 34 and have never been in a relationship. Even when I was young and before I became ill I was painfully shy. And even now I would say I’m socially awkward. I really have no need for a relationship at this point.

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But don’t you think you missed a important part of life,I know we are not to blame but personally not being able to get into a relationship is not very acceptable for me

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I have no idea. Perhaps you’re right. Maybe I am not coming across as approachable or something. I am not Angelina Jolie either lol

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I think I am replying to blacksheep,but well I really missed out a lot in life because of my this illness,it sucks to core

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i’ve had three serious relationships and i’m now 40 and have been single for a long time. i don’t see myself starting a new relationship at all. my kids come first. there’ll b me time once they’ve moved out. maybe then i’ll think about it. xxx