I do this a lot. Sleep in late, then feel so guilty for missing the morning that I stay in bed for the rest of the day. I stay in bed all day for a lot of reasons really. I want to stop because I know how depressed it makes me but it’s really hard not to isolate myself. I also have other people living in the house so I isolate myself since I don’t want to be around others. It’s affecting my relationship. I really wish i would stop going mute and just locking myself up in my room. But my bed feels like the only safe place I have.
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What is there to do in the morning that makes you want to wake up to do so?
@anon1571434 I do not work so I feel that to be useful in the house I should do the chores. It’s almost impossible lately though. I also feel more motivated if I wake up in the mornings. More happy.
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Well you seem nice enough. That statement you gave alone is worthy of recognition.
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Your behavior describes me as well. I think it’s bad memories that make me not want to get out of bed.
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I have trouble with isolation. sometimes i push myself for a mini outing other days i can’t do it.
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Ive been isolating myself for a couple of weeks now.
The shorter days doesn’t help.
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The apathy is a serious problem. This is my greatest distress lately–getting up in the morning when I don’t have to, and then staying up and not taking naps. It is so severe that I start thinking about death. I dread the boredom now.
My solution is to start scheduling something to get me out of bed each day, like appointments with friends or my therapist or attending my day treatment program on certain days.
I brought up this topic with several people and I now have a list of things to do. For example, I will read and watch movies at home.
I have one more week on leave and then I go back to work 32 hours a week.
My #1 recommendation to you all is to join a day treatment program, if you can.
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Hard one, my body needs a lot of isolation, I force myself to have some social contacts but every time I feel bad. Personally I like to be only around other ppl with a MI.
I just don’t see the point in getting out of bed sometimes.
I have lost interest in many things and a lot of energy is required to even do things like wash. I am bored but i just do not want to do anything because I’m tired and my thoughts and inner dialogues make me feel guilty.
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Sometimes, I have to force myself not to judge myself for not getting up early. When I was little, there was school and I had to. Then, I went to the military, and there you have to get up early. So, somewhere along the line, I equated the idea of getting up early with being a part of things.
Now, I just can’t all the time. But, why do I judge? It’s hard enough to deal with sz without judging myself so much. Sometimes, I get up early, other times I can’t. It’s all okay.
It’s easier said than done.
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I am slightly less isolated because I now see my stepdaughter and granddaughters on a regular basis.
It’s said that isolation brings with it a whole set of problems. Much effort is put into promoting social inclusion.
For me I feel less lonely than sometimes I need company because I’m bored with my own. I don’t make a conscious move to isolate myself it’s just that I struggle to initiate relationships. Having said that I also don’t go out of my way to engage with others.
Most of the time I’m quite happy just seeing family.
Part of the reason for not being overly proactive when it comes to engaging with others is that I struggle with the ‘rules’ of social engagement and how to be within social situations. Trying to navigate the social landscape can be quite taxing.
How much this is an issue for others with serious mental illness I don’t know,or more indicative of the other issues I have mentioned on several occasions.
It would interesting to hear how much the degree of illness at any given time affects the ability of people here to engage with others , or is it, like me , a constant factor regardless of illness state?
I am the same way, if I share a house I just stay in my room, I live alone now so I’m not in my room but I never go out unless I’m working.
Ditto, Could have written that myself. I intend to lock myself away for a couple of days purely to save some money. It also gives my brain a rest from outside influeneces and “problems” i may encounter. I sleep about 15hours a night. Wish i could sleep more. I have quite lovely dreams!!
I try to force myself to go out more by only doing light grocery shopping.
Some people shop so they have enough stuff for an entire week, sometimes even a month.
I buy what I need the day I need it, because that way, I’ll have to go out of my apartment if I want to eat. Which I do.
What helped me was also getting rid of the guilt if I oversleep. I realised that just because I missed some of the day, doesn’t mean I should punish myself by missing the rest. It’s not like anyone died or got hurt from me getting up at 10 instead of 7.
The day isn’t over until the clock turns midnight, so there’s plenty of time to do stuff even if you feel like you’ve wasted some of the time by sleeping.
Try to push yourself out of your comfort zone, and maybe start by being social with the people you live with, and then when you’ve proved to yourself that that’s going well, venture out more and try to reach out to friends and such? Y’know, take it step-by-step.
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