How do I stop giving too much information?

I do it all the time, telling my life story to whoever lends an ear even when I see them watch for the time and looking around for an excuse to leave.

Even here I write long posts about nothing, things that happened in the past, things that no one should be interested in, including myself.

I lost a shyteload of friendships that way. I am incorrigible.

Also, all the roumours about me at at least partially true. I have my heart on my sleeve and all the personal information out there for all to see. Sometimes I feel like I need a brain replacement, not for the illness, but just for this specific behaviour I cannot refrain from.

How the hell do I stop?

It s the same here. I do the same. I used to tell people about my illness. Big big mistake. The first thing they think :this person is crazy.
A big mistake

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@anon33673328 what is wrong with it?
I also hide nothing, for better or for worse…
You have nothing to be ashamed of.

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Half-digested truths, that’s what is wrong with it. Also very personal information that people can use against me, or which will make them automatically discriminate against me.

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Think of this. I got an email from a company that I never signed up for. The company is based in India. I have no idea :bulb: obviously I give tmi

Is it a compulsion to tell someone everything? Almost like a confession?
If so it could be more or an OCD behavior

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Well, I never…think about it that way. Obviously I am not OCD, but the notion of compulsive behaviour never occurred to me before. Yes, it is a compulsion, I always read about those but never seemed to make the connection. I am not obsessive too much, but compulsive yessir. I feel like I can’t breathe or focus on anything else until I do this or that thing, like telling the whole story for example.

Thanks for the insight I just had. Very well spotted, sir.

Next question is, I guess, how do you treat compulsions?

Did anyone here get rid of one and lived to tell the story?

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I do the same exact thing. It’s really frustrating sometimes

Try to distract yourself with something else is one way.

One of my compulsions is checking if water tap is off . I’ll check it 3 taps or turn on the handle then check underneath once. If it doesn’t ā€œfeelā€ right I do it again. Sometimes Ive gotten stuck there and do it like 20 something times. Always in 3s or 6s 9s etc.
I can even see its off. But I’ll check again.
It’s all related to the ā€˜feeling’

It’s annoying as heck. It gets worse when I’m stressed or I’m going on an outing somewhere.

I’ve tamed it before and stopped doing it for a while but it always ends up reverting back. I stopped it by telling myself who cares. Just self talk that it doesn’t matter.

When I was 19 years old, I went into a mental hospital.

Time after time some person in the mental hospital came to get information from me. I was encouraged to think if I wanted their help, I should tell the truth and whole truth to every stranger who asked me questions.

It was a shitty set up for later life.

Jayster

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Sometimes ideas need time to germinate before they can be exposed in a good way. I push, too, to ā€œopen upā€ to people, especially on this forum. Here, people are more likely to understand. I agree that it has all the markings of compulsive confessing. But, hey, if we bore one another, we can say so.

You don’t @Chess24? You are very brave. I’m afraid of divulging too much. Some people will treat you differently.

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Call hotlines instead of talking to friends
I did that thousands of times and one day I was satisfied
I no longer need to share with other people much of anything about me

ā€œDon’t bite the hand that feeds you.ā€ I don’t know what the hell that means or why I wrote it, but it sounds good, lol.

Easy, it’s called a finger. In other words, you have control of your finger, don’t let it type too much information. Don’t let it type something you don’t like. Another gem from 77nick77, lol.

i do that too, im like constantly oversharing and im oblivious to the fact that people dont like it and always have been bc autism :smile:

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