Highly sensitive people and Narcissists

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So True!

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I personally don’t think that I fit into either of those categories. I’m neither a narcissist nor highly sensitive.

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My brother is a Narcissist and his girlfriend is a highly sensitive and empathetic person.
He sometimes treats her like shitt.

I am highly sensitive and he loves to treat me like crap many times.

Right now he’s giving me and my father the silent treatment.

I’m not going to contact him until he calls first.

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I used to be highly sensitive, before the onset of my mental illness.

There is no appeal in narcissists, but I used to have a higher tolerance for them, before.

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Narcissists are toxic as hell and I can spot them easily because I was raised by one (my stepdad). I don’t bother with them, I don’t have time to make them feel special at my expense which is literally all they ever want.

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I was raised by one, and I used to fall prey to them constantly. It’s what I knew.

I learned how to go no contact, and I can do it with ease when necessary. And I can spot it rather fast, now, too.

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I used to be highly sensitive, a little remains but mostly burned out. I have zero tolerance for narcissists, few things ring my bell more, probably because I have no common thought frame with that mentality. I’ve often thought those types should be set aside with like-minded people, somewhere the hell away from me.

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I’m a highly sensitive person. But I feel like I have ruined a lot of people’s lives so I just don’t talk to anyone.

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How did you ruin others lives?

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Because I am a burden? I made my ex-boyfriend leave because of my illness, and I just become a nuisance to everyone.

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If he really loved you, he would have stayed with you no matter what is your illness. You have an illness, its not your fault and good ppl understand and respect that.

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But he wouldn’t have been fed up with my illness if my illness wasn’t there.

So… I think it’s my fault. Or I just choose to think this way because it’s comfortable, and I don’t know how to feel better about myself.

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Aren’t you working or studying? You should feel proud of that.

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Its your family, they should take care of you no matter what. I am stuck in bed most of the time but my family still loves me and take care of me. I stayed 8yrs without income and they helped me. Don’t feel bad about getting help as if you do you’re only making yourself more miserable. Do what you can.

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My family shouldn’t suffer because of me, though. I feel terrible. I think they want a daughter who has good grades and goes to a prestigious school, then gets a good job and stop burdening them. But I’m none of these things. I am always sick and I cause my family a ton of medical bills.

I know that I didn’t choose to be sick or be mentally ill but I can’t help but think I’m a huge burden, and I have fought with my family a multiple times on this issue. Years of fighting and arguing just ruined my self-esteem as a whole.

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You mean they said they don’t want to take care of you? If you find them abusive maybe thers a place where you can live with support care for your illness?

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I feel the same as you, I let down my parents, they wanted me to be a Dr but I ended up on disability with sz and mostly in bed. Its no ones fault. But I don’t think about it anymore as it doesn’t help, it just makes things worse.

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Well, before they thought my illness was psychological so they wanted me to try to get better, and I was so dead tired and didn’t want to do anything. I was in massive pain and fatigue. But later they realized that I wasn’t faking these symptoms, and these symptoms were not psychological. In the meantime, my family was spending a ton of money on me and they were really frustrated. So they were really angry in some ways, but later the doctors found out why I was having these symptoms so they apologized.

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I am a sensitive and empathetic person, and I do sometimes attract what I have heard called, emotional vampires. They will drain you dry if you let them

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I disagree with the HSP concept. It’s not a good concept. Also I think the explanation is a lot simpler: narcissists are attracted to people with low self-esteem. They usually don’t want constant empathy, they want admiration and little resistance. And an extremely empathetic person can be both critical and self-assured. Being empathetic does not mean you always give in to others.

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