I relate to you so much on this. I sometimes think my Step-Family doesn’t look at where I’m coming from. Even if I were to ask them as I have before I would be put in a category unfitting to me as they generalize my life into some category they made based off of previous encounters with other people. So they sit in the delusion that just because two things are similar, they have the same solution. Which doesn’t make sense because if that were true, how come I’m just a"spoiled brat"? I even brought this up before and told my step mom, “well you raised me” and she disowns me saying"well I thought I raised you but that’s not the case" Great so gtfo and mind your own business. Nobody wants you staring down their neck anyway.
Sorry I’m taking some of this out on you. I really should confront her one day but she is illogical and plays games a lot.
don’t worry about it, I am my family’s scape goat, they blame me for everything, my borther has episodes of psychosis from drug use, but hes the ‘poor baby who is just sick’ and I’m the ‘disappointment who chose this life for himself’
lol that’s exactly how my step mom treats me and my step brother. He is always getting arrested for smoking weed and driving and she always look at me with contempt even though I quit drugs a long time ago. Like she is always pushing me to live up to standards and letting her sons fail at everything when she doesn’t even know my story and the only time she tried to ask about it was in private with my Father and I wasn’t around at the time. So how is she supposed to know where I am coming from? My Dad hasn’t been there 100% of the time in my life so what’s the point of asking him or anyone else my life story if I’m the only one who has been there for the entirety of it? You have to be like her to think that makes sense.
So I’m gonna tell her that one day, tell her she doesn’t know me and hasn’t even tried to. She thinks she can just coerce people into gossiping about someone to get to know the details of them. If you want to know about someone’s life then just go ask them!
BINGO! I have neighbor like or had actually, at the apartment building I lived in before, she tried to get my life story from my roommate, and he was just like “Go ask him yourself”
Her response? “Well aren’t you his state sponsored care taker?”
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lol how is someone who doesn’t even live with them supposed to know them? Who cares what someone else thinks?
EDIT: I just reread that and realized how off my comment was. Here it goes again:
What is the care taker supposed to know? They don’t live in our minds. They don’t know half our life story even if they were there. Who cares what someone else thinks. It’s like taking word for word the movies about Steve Jobs as a 100% truth to what they went through in their life. And those movies made him look like a jerk and that he didn’t know what he was doing. But we know he did because he made a fortune.
️ Sorry, @Jimbob. They sound very weak and limited. My mom is gone, and never really understood while she was here (plus she had her own issues), and my dad now has dementia and I’m just glad when he still knows who I am. Parents should be and should do a lot of things. It’s hurtful when they can’t/don’t. ️
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I have been there and it felt pretty special.
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