I think I met someone lately who sort of grimaced when I told them I work in a bakery. Maybe they were expecting me to be a professional woman? Or they would have more respect for me if I was? And what’s worse, it was a man who behaved this way. I thought men did not care about a woman’s job? But it made me feel a bit insecure…
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How stressfull is your job now …!!! Are u able to perform …??? How are u today diana…take care…
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Hello @Diana_Ross7 you are great. Nothing wrong with working in the bakery…
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It’s okay. I like it. I imagine they may give me more responsibility the longer I am there. But it’s going well…
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Some people looked down on me when I worked at a 7-eleven, but I knew I was just doing what I had to do to survive. Try not to worry so much about what others think of you and the job you do. Be proud to be working a job of any kind.
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Yes most people in my life leave when I’m down on my luck. When I’m not at a good job, when I get schizophrenia… People will avoid you. Not everyone is like that however.
I think the problem isn’t the others it’s more to do with how you feel about your job. Because you don’t know what the grimace meant ? Maybe he was just having a bad day ? Maybe?
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Also to add… there is nothing wrong with what you do. You are doing an honest job …
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Maybe. Think I am reading more into it than is there. I just think maybe men expect women to be highly accomplished super women these days and they are not very impressed with the women who have not adapted to the Feminist restructuring of society? What if you’re not their ultra equal? You’re still in that inferior position women have supposedly been for centuries in spite of the fact that many women have adapted and excelled under the new society/cultural norms. Maybe a woman who is not a career woman as such seems lesser…
Stereotypical thinking is not the right approach when you are trying to find a fitting partner.
After all you are not marrying with a job but with a person.
People who care too much about financial success seem to miss a big part of their lives.
I think that questions like:
“Does this person brings happiness to my life?”
“What feelings this person makes me feel?”
"Do our life styles synergies well?"
Are way more appropriate for finding a successful match in the dating world.
Honestly I’ve lost so much time of my life being In poverty I’ll happily devote my life to getting rich. And miss out on the things I’m unable to get regardless of money. Sure does look like a winner
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I never give much thought to what a woman does for a living, If I dated I would probably want to date a woman that did a labor job, I like a woman that can get her hands dirty.
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I don’t think money will change too much when you are out of poverty.
And I don’t think that being rich will make you a happier person.
Psychological research shows that people with low self esteem tend to be more materialistic, and the effect of buying new expensive items (practicing materialism when you have the means) on your happiness is ,in the good case, only momentary. So the conclusion is that it won’t change much and you will be probably still stuck with your current problems.
Of-course, living in poverty does have a large effect on your happiness levels, and that ■■■■ sucks.
I believe that balance is the key- when you have just enough money, focusing on an another aspect of life may bring the best results.
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Have u seen the documentary “Happy”
it says the first 50,000 can impact happiness. But if you’re making 50,000 vs. 300,000 it doesn’t impact happiness.
That said I don’t think id need 50,000 cuz I barely spend and I’m never having kids either
Sorry to hear you took that decision. You are still very young, why limit your future options?
I know I’m cursed to a life of drug use I wouldn’t wanna expose kids to…besides id rather have more money, and more independence!! I’m against the idea of me having kids in every single way. I might consider more pets though!
By “drug use” I hope you mean medicines. That may indeed be true but it’s not a serious reason to avoid having offspring.
On the other hand, they come with great responsibility and indeed, you would have to spend money and also lose some independence.
Ok man, it’s your life, you call the shots! 
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Well I’m 11 days sober from weed but I don’t know how long it will last. I was really really craving last night. its tough. I’m hoping I can break the cycle
but my pdoc even said “It may be a lifetime struggle for you”
just cuz weed is the toughest thing to stay sober on because theres not the risk of death its just strong mental addiction and like I went 5 years not being a “heavy marijuana smoker” after a 3 year period of being one…and then the last 4 months I fell into a relapse into heavy addiction. I wasn’t expecting that. But man did I enjoy it. But still, would like to stop. But on the other side I enjoyed it 
Lets just say theres no guarantee for me to stay sober and I know when I’m not sober I end up smoking a lot of pot consecutively until I break the cycle. I wouldn’t wanna have the risk that my kids have to see me high
besides, the other reasons
and the hereditary risk of SZ too!!
With that in mind, you should be upfront with any potential serious girlfriend. Statistically, I think, women generally want kids more than men do.
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I recently changed all my dating profiles to “Does not want kids”
My sister actually doesn’t want kids either
neither does my bro in law
and I’m attracted to girls who are ALIKE to my sister. Hopefully theyre alike in that way too 
But yeah I’d be open about how I do not want kids.
My mom wants grandkids badly but me and my sister, neither of us want kids. I think my sister will have one kid when shes like 40. I hope so, to cheer my mom. Shed be a much better mother than id be a father in a lot of ways, I don’t think shes ready yet though. But in 5-10 years she will be.
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