HAVE A GREAT ONE! wishing you blessings on this day and always 
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@anon92236671 45345634563456
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Happy birthday @anon92236671
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Happy birthday @anon92236671
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Happy birthday.
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Thanks my dear forum friends,
It’s a very tough time I have now. Not the birthday I had in my mind.
Spending it alone far from my family…
Wish me strenght.
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Happy birthday 
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One forum member will be happy to hear this – yes, I am alone, completely alone. (Sending greetings to him.)
Today my brother terrorized everyone – he yelled, threatened to kill, and I realized I need to spend at least two days alone. Away from everything.
Some wonderful people offered to help – to let me stay over at their place – but I understand that I finally need to start doing things on my own. To stop depending on anyone, financially or emotionally.
There is also a member on the forum who would have helped in every possible way. I will always be grateful to you.
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Happy Birthday, I hope you are able to stay strong
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Thanks, @anon54334749
It’s a day when I honestly need to be super strong. If I won’t change my life now, no one will.
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Happy Birthday Sweetness. Just remember, your illness is not who you are, so dont let yourself be defined by it.
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Happy birthday!!!
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Happy birthday Teaclipse. I hope you get through this tough situation you are going through.
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That is a start. Money isnt everything. Friends and Family are. Remember, every struggle you have - your gonna learn from it. And that just makes you Stronger.
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Dear friend,
At this point, it’s not so much the illness that disrupts my life, but rather, in a way, my lack of independence.
My family is in complete chaos—literally. My brother’s addictions keep getting worse, my parents refuse to let him go, and they themselves don’t exactly live right either (in terms of alcohol).
Yelling, sometimes even physical fights—that’s the reality of my family.
I used to think this was a normal family routine, until I lived with my boyfriend and his parents… well, you get the idea.
I have to break this family pattern and distance myself from them, to no longer let their arguments or manipulations dictate my life.
When I’m alone, I can truly feel that I’m not the problem—it’s the chaotic environment around me.
I want to help my family, but every time I do, I feel myself sinking deeper and deeper.
@Naarai
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What you got to simply do - is focus on yourself. No point trying to change other people, it simply aint gonna happen - and your gonna feel resentful.
You cant help your brother - unless he wants to help himself. Be Harsh and Selfish - Focus on your own personal recovery.
Sounds to me, people are dumping their emotional crap on your shoulders. Get rid of them.
If you cant - maintain an emotional distance. Sorry - you aint gonna save them - and its just doing your nut in. Be Selfish, for once in your life. Look after Number One.
I know its all too easy for me to say this, but frankly, you simply got to learn to be a bit of an arsehole, and tell them to stop pissing you off.
Nah. They had enough chances. Let them get on with it.
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Happy Birthday @anon92236671! 
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Yeah - I hear you. Its all too easy to get enveloped in other peoples problems. My Mother was the same. Do your best - and dont falter. Your recovery is paramount - and when your better in a few years time - i bet they will still have the same bollox going on.
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I agree with this. I’ll add to it too. Maybe not focus 100% on your self, but significantly more. If someone focuses 100% on themselves they will be selfish and if they focus 0% on themselves then they’ll be self neglectful. I think focusing MORE on yourself like 50/50 is the best option. Only if you take care of yourself can you take care of others.
For example of you’re a soldier, you can’t carry your comrades if you yourself are injured so you look our for them and you look our for yourself for them! Does that make sense? If you just rush into battle rashly not only you will suffer but your comrades also.
So in life we have to look our for ourselves too otherwise life will become unbearable and not only that it will be so unbearable it may prevent us from helping others.
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Happy birthday
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