Greiving the loss of not having children

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I do like not having children but i do feel sad that i likely wont have them due to health problems and medication that causes health problems for the child. Is anyone else similar

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Yep, I’ll never have a family, just me until I die of old age

I got over it years ago

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I want a kid but idk if I’m capable for dat. Being a psychotic and all

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That includes me not wanting to end up on a higher medication dose due to stress

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Yeah same here tbh

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I just can’t handle the financial requirements of raising a kid, even if I wanted to. I’m recovered to the point where I think I could handle it otherwise, but it doesn’t matter cuz of how little cash I get.

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Exactly that too. I only work part time in retail

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I still want a child but if the child is ill that means id be looking after two ill ppl me and the child. It’s s lot. Really.

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I don’t ever want to become a father.

  1. There’s a chance i’d pass down my mental health issues to them and id feel responsible for their suffering

  2. I’m not financially comfortable enough to provide for a kid. Probably wont be in the future either.

  3. The thought of dealing with screaming and crying for the first 2 to 4 years… it would stress me out.

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Same boat as U dude.

Though I still want to l, one day, MAYBE, become a father.

But my reasons for not being one is the same as yours.

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Many years ago I was pregnant and I was tortured by voices and psychotic and the father and his friends were saying they wanted to kill me.

“My family “ yelled at me that I have to have an abortion .
Even my grandmothers said I have to.

I couldn’t even buy my own groceries at that time because I was tormented .
My x bought groceries for me.

Only time I had ease was when sleeping or drunk.
Amazing i didn’t become alcoholic only binge drinker.but not daily.

I wanted to raise my child with Anders and not the father because the father is a bad and Anders cares for me etc
Anders and I could have had a family.
Wish I spoke to anders and asked him for help .

Wish I stood up to family and went against their will.

“My father” said I should never have children and then he said he make sure I never have children and a few months later I got ovarian cancer.
After sticking a stick up vagina that meant to be good said the boyfriend I had who was bad but I’m sure it was cancer stick .

I am a mum to fur baby .

Not being a mum or grandma is perhaps a loss and grief .

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