I found myself arguing with my pdoc yesterday. It wasn’t heated or anything, I actually really like her and find it easy to stay pretty chill even when disagreeing with her or getting one of my ideas shot down. She must have amazing diplomacy skills.
Talking about stuff online seems buffered in a way, but when I’m trying to talk about it in person, I find it hard not to argue that I definitely don’t have SZ/A.
I tried to argue that I really have Borderline PD and she gently navigated through all that. She said she can see that I seem to have some traits but that it’s not full-blown for a diagnosis and not the main problem.
I tried to get her to let me try an anti-depressant instead and she nicely shot me down, explaining that it’s not the right type of med and she wants me on anti-psychotic.
I can’t really pinpoint exactly or what all it is about her, it makes such a huge difference to have a pdoc who can actually argue and be firm with me and yet I don’t feel defensive, threatened or upset when I leave the session.
If I try to pinpoint it I think it’s because she respects me, that’s just the overall vibe I get from her. She can disagree and be firm without condescending me, making me feel like a kid in trouble or without making it a power struggle or a drawn-out stupid argument.
I think that’s really a gift, honestly. I know I’m not very good at it most of the time, myself, and I’ve had plenty of professionals who had just awful people skills and no real compassion or respect in their work.