I get so frustrated with my partner, she has no problem going over and cleaning for her stepmom but she won’t help me clean our apartment even if she made a lot of the mess by throwing her clothes wherever and not helping when she says she will. I just don’t know what to do. my father in law blames me for the mess every single time. saying my job is to keep the apartment clean and its my partner’s job just to work and help her mom clean.
Don’t really have enough info but if you are home for the day and your partner works for 8 hours a day, if it were me I would probably do the cleaning at the same time expect my partner to at least be respectful and not make a mess when there is no need for it.
But then I live alone and have for a long time so no idea how couples settle these things.
Bare knuckle boxing…that’s why I ended up with dishes and laundry…
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Hey, that might be a high class problem! I.e. A problem others would like to have. I have nobody to argue with about cleaning stuff. And it’s quite lonely.
Same here really, now get busy and clean my place!!! and I don’t want to hear any lame excuse 
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Does the mess bother you? Or just your father-in-law? I do some cleaning up after my husband, but there isn’t a third party getting involved, and we work it out. Some things I’m just willing to live with because I love him and want to be with him more than I want things to be organized.
I just wish she would help out sometimes, she helps make the mess but helps out her mother who relies on my partner to do everything over there. Maybe I am just over reacting