I wouldn’t have minded being told I was behind in some ways, if it was true and if I got help for those areas of difficulty. I wonder which is worse being told you are behind in certain ways or not getting the help and support you need to flourish.
I’m 61 with a track record of 44 years diagnosed severe mental illness. I have probable NVLD and possible autism(traits). I also ,based on childhood, have possible/probable dyspraxia. Such things were never really recognised for above averagely intelligent children from the early 60s to mid 70s and thus I went, and stayed , under the radar. As a result I have never got help and support for those things. Result- I 've never worked and can count the number of friends I’ve had on one hand.