Staying together always with your family is a good idea or it’s actually not a very good idea because quarreling and hurting each other is inevitable?
Love my family.
Will kill and die for them all.
I won’t go on a holiday with them though. I draw the line in the sand there!
We all went on a flight away to a wedding and it was a nightmare. I will do anything else but for most travelling just don’t do it!
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Not all families are the same. It depends on culture, religion, as well as personal differences in character. Ideally you should be able to get along with your close family, but nobody forces you to live together, unless you share the same values and there’s enough compatibility 
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I try for my family I really do.
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It depends. I can think of a saying like this; “Some are the children of birds, and some are the children of snakes. For a young to love the snakes like they were birds is as practical as loving to keep the laces of each shoe knotted together, so that you trip on them every day.”
So it depends, and it varies. Some of the children grow up to love their “birds” like they were snakes. Some love their parents according to what they are.
My parents are snakes, and when you can imagine someone trying to love a pit of vipers for years and years trying to make them change into birds, then you might have a good laugh. After years of trying I realized what the case was here because you have to remember that I was fairly new to the world, and I didn’t know all of the facets of reality that this place takes. I ran into that completely unexpected.
What I realized was that I had to keep working and maintaining my own life, and if I were to keep trying with them, then I was only going to be more disappointed than the last year and the year after that and so forth. Well, my depression is the kind that nails ya to the bird for a minimum of a day to 3 days. It’s hard to explain, but for someone that has to work and maintain a trajectory there is no excuse failures especially self induced depressions over snake piles in some far off state. I’m in the USA btw.
BUT if they were bird parents, then by all means I’d be doing the right thing by caring about them, and doing what I can to make the experiences in life all the more greater because what I do for them boosts them, and what they do in return boosts me, and that helps with my work life and my personal relationships life. Then I’d be a fool to be loving them like they were snakes you see.
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Family unity is a myth.
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I think it can be both depending on the family and how the kids were raised. I think what kind of person the child matures into counts the most though. Parents can preach for the kids to stick together all they want.
Unfortunately, other forces are at work besides parents. Children, teens, and young adults may become loners straying away from family for many reasons.
Some of reasons maybe because of how they are treated by only a handful of family members.
Other reasons could be teen addiction, bad infuences from “friends”, poverty caused by a parents addiction, abuse or neglect, etc…
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I have the greatest family. They helped me through too much. Sad that in the end it wasn’t enough.
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I’m going to visit one of my sisters today!
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I would say that any opinion of this is a matter of personal values not much different than the price one person would pay for an item compared to the next person. There really is no true price but only the most that someone will pay.
It would be a shame for people to throw away good families because they assumed there was some kind of universal value to the family. People should also know that family may not come in the form of biological relatives either nor even face to face such as over great distances online.
No, if family is family correctly, then it is the most uplifting thing you’ll ever experience. I guarantee you that. You are a human, and you have drives such as hunger, self security, and most of all you have a “family/tribal” drive that when in harmony causes people to give up their lives for the group in defense of it.
Therefore it has a higher value than food and other items, so don’t underestimate the value of unity. But make sure you know that when it’s not your family, group, or “tribe,” that you be practical about it. Don’t make any false moves, but be looking to exit in search of what more life has to offer you in your ways especially another family.
By the way, family is power. I can’t give you a more honest estimate of what it is worth. But if it isn’t family, you will know it isn’t by the way it renders you powerless.
There’s a saying by Warren Buffet, “If you sit at a poker table, and you can’t figure out who the patsy is in 15 minutes, go to another table because it is you.”
I always want people to know what their individual worth is above all other things because if you know that, then you will wind being more than we imagine in the coming years. If that is never known, obscured by others or ourselves for fallacious reasons, then there isn’t much ahead for anyone, and that is not a practical decision making process being used.
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