Can’t shake this deep depression.
My Moms condition is getting to me.
Everything is in black and white.
I hope I last, I really do.
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What is your Mom’s condition? Are you living with her?
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Yes, she has advanced dementia and is wheelchair bound.
She is extremely frail.
Our doctor is contacting Hospice for her.
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Then, in a lot of ways you’ve already lost her. It’s just a matter of time. We’ll try to be here for you.
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Oh thank you @PinCushion
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@Wave
You’re going to make it through. We’re not going anywhere. We’re here for you. Take care.
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Thank you @JustTrish
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Hugs to you @Wave it’s so hard. I wish for your mom no pain and peace to go with it. It’s important when she goes for you to mourn. I wish it were easier.
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Thank you @Daze
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I’m sorry wave. Try your best to look after yourself too.
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Thanks @everhopeful.
I’ll try.
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I’m sorry to hear your having such a tough time.
Maybe she’ll get into hospice care soon and it will give you some much needed relief.
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So sorry to hear about your mom. Hopefully hospice can help
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So so sorry Wave.
I hope you can make peace in some way and that she is not in pain.
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Try to make sure you part with good memories of each other. I wish you the best.
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It might be a bit easier when you get help from the hospice.
Take extra good care of yourself.
Love 
bomb and dote on yourself aswell as your mum n dad.
Talk kind encouraging words to yourself.
Pepp talk.
Forse yourself to shower etc
We are here 
The forum is here for you too💜
Wishing you to get through this without falling into a deep depression.
What is your physical support network?
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Thank you @GoldenRex @Cindy10 @Toshiko and @crimby.
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Thanks @SacredNeigh7
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The only advice that I can really give is to never allow yourself to believe that your mother may return to you. She won’t. In hospice, she may look comfortable, peaceful, youthful. She may appear to be taking a really nice nap. She may move around some. She may physically react to external stimuli. She may open her eyes or try to speak. She may even have a seemingly random burst of energy, during which she seems to return to her old self. But if your mom’s in hospice, then it’s over. There won’t be any miracles, and she won’t return to you; this is the end, and the more of that hope you hold on to now, the harder it’ll crush you when you face the inevitable.
I’m so sorry that things had to be this way. I wish you well, @Wave, and may your mother rest in peace.
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I have my father, brother, aunts etc…
I have a psychiatrist and case manager.
But I’m having trouble getting a ride to see my psychiatrist and my case manager doesn’t always show up.
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