I recently read a facebook thread about a family of 7 not having enough space in a council home, and not earning enough money to support themselves. One of the top comments complimented the parents saying “oh well sure they shouldn’t have had more kids they can provide for, but at least he’s not work shy”. They then went on a rant about how “work shy” people are worse and how they don’t deserve support when “they’ve never worked a day in their lives”.
I felt absolutely furious. I didn’t engage with it but I wondered what you lot felt?
It was the terminology used that really made me feel angry.
I started work when I was 12 doing dishes at a cafe and was paid under the table. I definitely put in the effort even after my DX. If anyone irl calls me work shy then they’ll get a talking to.
Now on SSDI. I’m grateful to have it though sometimes feel guilty when I feel well.
i grew up with a paper route when i was 10-12, and did other jobs, i never really knew why i was suppose to work other than my parents told me to lol. so i had a hard work ethic instilled.
i sold my small biz in 2018 and havnt really done much work in 3 years. at times i felt a bit guilty cuz my friends and fam are always working. but i told myself 'no I earned it, i sold the biz its my money if I want to coast and work on my mental health thats my choice"
im gonna go back to work in march
i actually was suppose to apply for disability in 2019 but im an idiot and forgot to send in the papers. like sending in the papers was a lot, so many papers to fill out. so i forgot about it, now its almost 2021, and i decided ill just try and work again instead of school.
im in that silly grey area of mental illness, functional at times and not functional at other times
Not really, I know I can’t work now due to sz and that its not my personality because b4 sz I was full time studying getting A grades and working the weekend both days. In the summer I worked full time. I started working full time when I was 14 in the summer to build my first gaming PC which I did at 14 y.o.
actually i just had this convo with my pdoc yesterday.
She said because I look good and that I am intelligent, which makes it difficult to see that I am mentally ill when im doing ok, that if i had a major screw up in a mania, id be hooped.
Say i spent $20,000 on some cars just cuz i was manic then theres no chance i would win in a court case to reverse what happened.
one of her patients bought a house while manic and lost the court case.
i may be work shy idk ive only had one job and it lasted 2 days and i never showed back up because i was in such a bad place mentally. i didnt really think of work much before sz because i was 15 when it started
well if you try to look at it from the working class side, of course they will think that way. Its hard to work for a living. In a perfect world I don’t think anyone would be working. So you gotta just kinda see it from other angles and not take offence to it.
I think they’re referring to able bodied and able minded not ever working. I’m sure there are complete jerks that think that about disabled too, but the majority aren’t referring to the disabled
actually heres a good explanation, a working class person that judges with the ‘work shy’ thing would be much more accepting of someone who had a missing limb and isnt working than someone with a mental illness that is kind of invisible from a distance.
society can be very judgemental