Does anybody have a life and has sz at the same time? What I mean by having a life is having enough friends, having a job, being married, having a girl friend or a boyfriend. I have 1 friend but we don’t hang out near enough. I have 3 other friends but we never hang out or talk on the phone a lot.
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Not me and not all SZs are like me.
It all depends on SZ severity and negative symptoms severity.
I only have 2 remaining friends from when I was on Abilify. We only talk online and never in real life.
Im living it, you can do it too it just takes time and practice and discipline. Its possible for any of us on here, gotta keep the faith
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i have a life. it took a very very long time but i have a whole life to live now but i am already 62. but actually its not ancient yet that i am so… maybe it’ll be good.
wishing you all much better success than i had especially in taking much less time to climb out of the sz tunnel of darkness. judy
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Semi successful here. I have a full time job which I sometimes hate, but not every day. Pay is decent. I have plenty of acquaintances and a few reliable friends. I am single though. I maintain healthy connections with my close family members. I have hobbies. Unfortunately I can’t quit smoking.
So it’s a mix. Many normies find themselves living similar lifes around the same age which is 36.
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That’s awesome that’s you have a job and some friends!
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I don’t have a life, I barely have a “friend”, I never had a job and get a boyfriend or girlfriend is a miracle in my case
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I live a normal life. You have to put in a lot of work for it though. A lot
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@Teodor,
A girlfriend or boyfriend can’t save your from yourself. Very few people have a big enough heart to commit if you can’t provide anything in return. Are you able to love? To protect? To provide?
I can see you are very young. Your priority should be to find the best treatment. To minimize your symptoms. Maybe even therapy. Second, to socialize a bit more. Third, to explore different activities and develop at least one hobby. Take it slowly. You have plenty of time ahead.
Hugs.
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@Jake, by your definition, (friends, job, marriage, gf, bf), I don’t have a “life”. But, I beg to differ with you. My life is full and complete. I am content and happy in my solitude. I have many hobbies and interests that I pursue solo. Most importantly, I have a religion that fulfills me completely. I don’t need friends or a job. And the idea of marriage or a romantic relationship scares me to death.
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That’s great…I am glad you are content!
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I definitely have friends. Slowly they’re moving out of our hometown though (I’m 29) and its getting harder as time goes by as I know less and less will be here… No job or partner though.
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I’m happier than I’ve ever been @Jake.
Give it time. You never know what the future will hold for you.
And keep taking your meds.
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Good advice, thanks for the advice.
i really appreciate your words, thanks.
Not really. I’m hoping the next 5 years will be better.
Its hard to function when reality looks fake.
Since meds I’ve been married, been a step dad, moved overseas for a couple of years and came back.
I live a rich and realized life but it’s different from most. I’m on a disability pension and have been on and off it since 2004. I volunteer nowadays so I have no intention of working again.
Medications and some form of sanity has really improved my life no end and thinking way too much about things 24/7 really was exhausting. I’m a lot calmer and centered on the pills.
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It was like that for me for about 5 years… Left me feeling even more than before my first psychotic break.
But I have a lot going for me. A job… Like two good friends… A lot of aquaintances… No real girl friend, but quite a few seem interested… Which feels better than nothing. A few girls are too interested and I already know that just makes me uncomfortable.
It is possible… I got diagnosed at 23… I’m now 31… So that’s 8 years time it took me to get here.
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I have a life, I suppose. I work and have friends, for whom I quite thankful. I went through years of having no friends, and it was depressing for me.
I haven’t dated in years, but that has been by choice. I feel ready to date again, but I just can’t do it financially.
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