There’s some things you just don’t want to tell ppl or family as to not hurt them by your response or because you just don’t want them knowing. Are you completely honest or do you opt to change the story to keep your life private?
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It’s okay to lie when people are poking their nose into your personal matters, but you shouldn’t tell malicious lies about other people.
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I use to feel lying was ok when it’s personal after my voices started they would bring up every lie I ever told. Made me more aware and now makes me feel like a bad person
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Lying to people you don’t know such as strangers or one-time acquaintances is fine. Lying in a court room in front of a judge, a congressional panel, the FBI or a police officer would be incriminating.
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if you feel bad about lying maybe you should try to be honest or just say that information is personal
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When it comes to sz and family, doctors, close friends etc, I think lying is never ever good. We have to be honest with our illness or we can get in a really bad spot. Plus, one lie usually leads to other lies.
The only time I’ve lied recently is when another student asked me how old I was, and I told him a few years younger than I am. (Basically less than 30) I did it to protect myself, and I felt bad about it but I knew what I was doing. I’ve alienated myself with my age and I’m just not about to do that again. The other thing is, if he found out, I would just be honest and explain why I did it. I wouldn’t feel too bad about it.
I dislike lying. I prefer to say that I’m not comfortable discussing something instead.
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If the question is about something which concerns only you and the truth will impact you in a negative way then it is absolutely OK to lie. Everyone has their secrets and you are not obliged to share them with anyone.
If you don’t wish to respond say “No comment.” Then change the subject.
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To keep my diagnosis private, my sister and husband have come up with “lies” about my life, our life, to explain my behaviors and non-work/life situation.
I also work with my caseworker on how to socialize without lieing. I feel what is the point of socializing (which is minimal to none at the moment) for me if I have to lie. So we have been working on discovering who me with Schizophrenia is for myself and for situations where I have to socialize. What will I talk about. Who am I. What are truths I can say in conversation. And I don’t have to answer anything I don’t want. and I don’t have to be faking a person I am not.
This is my work in progress. I’m really still learning to manage.
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I believe that its never okay to lie.
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If a stranger is asking personal questions then they don’t respect you and should not receive any respect in return.
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I don’t like to lie. Nobody knows about my condition. People don’t get that it is a one or more neurotransmitters irregularity. I don’t like invasion of my liberty. So, I am honest by saying I’d rather not answer that question whike I always ommit my condition. People are juldmental and quite unevolved and regularly unhappy due to their beliefs. I also avoid further contact with people who attempt to know about my personal life.
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Have you ever lied?
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Yes, actually it is a valid practice around my first degree family. But I never felt good, so about 2 years ago I decided not to lie again. Note that I don’t talk about my feelings or my condition nor do much socialization .People say I am anti-social in which case they are not wrong but I keep the truth mostly on a need to know basis so it is a controled truth.
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Something a shrewd businessman once told me in regards to marketing was “I dont lie, I just shade the truth”.
That right there opened my eyes to the world of facades
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The real truth is that people are judmental and unevolved so certain thuths are better left unsaid. It all depends on how open minded, honest, and ethical someone is. Some people are not ready. Too caught up in themselves, another good part believes in competition and grades the value of a human being. Some have agressive thoughts. Some have opressing thoughts. Most are selfish. So I try to level up with the person’s level of consciousness but I don’t lie. I keep it honest. I find it important. You have to be carefull on the choice of words at all times. I sell my software and again, I don’t lie but I communicate passing confidence in my products. No lies thou. Just a different style of communication for marketing sake.
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I was in this situation recently with an aunt of mine on Facebook. I told her a little bit of the truth, then a partial truth, then I switched the subject completely over to my aunt. Ie., the old bait and switch.
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I change a lot of facts to suit my intended narrative. Firstly my private life, is exactly that, private. Secondly a lot of people can’t comprehend schizophrenia and how it affects you so it’s easier to give a false narrative than a real one
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