Im starting to feel sorry for myself for everything i have to go through mentally and with my childhood. This feeling comes and goes and i always hate it but maybe its just a normal emotion
I think that’s a normal and valid feeling. I deal with it, too, sometimes, and for me it stems from anger over unfair treatment.
I feel sorry for myself occasionally. Having moments of self-pity and sorrow is a normal feeling. But, I overcome these feelings by reminding myself that my situation can be worse. I’m doing well now despite my setbacks. I forge on with determination to be the best I can be with what I have. Thinking positively helps tremendously.
I’ll feel sorry for myself once in a while but like @ciaociao1 said, there’s people in worse shape and circumstances than me.
I don’t really feel sorry for myself. It just doesn’t help me. That’s why. I do get very sad from time to time though, but maybe that’s a different thing. And maybe that will reduce with time.
I try not to feel sorry for myself, but like you said, the mood just hits me occasionally. I get blasted with a sense of perspective over “How did none of the adults in my life manage to protect me when I was a kid?”
I think this is a healthier feeling than my previous feeling of “How did I suck so bad at everything all the time?” I have stopped blaming myself for the trauma I went through, and started blaming others instead. It makes me angry when it happens. I don’t know if it is healthy, but it does motivate me in life. I try to make sure my kids know someone is looking out for them, even when I’m mad at them.
How many kids do you have? Thought you only had one.
I have one at home and one grown up and living elsewhere. The oldest one I never mentioned on here until they moved out for privacy reasons. They were only in our home for 8 months when they were 19-20, but they changed our life in a big way. They were the one who convinced us to open our demographics up to teenagers, rather than just babies. We sort of got them on a fluke, by random chance. They’re almost 23 now, and still call me every week to chat or ask for advice or whatever.
I think that feeling sorry for yourself or self pity is a normal emotion to process.
Once in a while that emotion being experienced is normal but if you feel like that all the time, I wouldn’t consider that normal.
Suffering from PTSD because of your child hood or what you went through as a child trigger that emotion.
Therapy can benefit someone who is experiencing PTSD or stress related to trauma.
Feeling sorry for yourself, stemming from trauma, isn’t abnormal.
If it’s not taking up a lot of time focusing on it then it’s not so bad. But if it consumes your thoughts it’s not good.
Yea I agree with you Pianogal.
Yes, its bad to victimise yourself. I always try to get on top of me and gain control over myself.
i don’t feel sorry for myself, i always keep the thought that i gotta keep fighting.
The danger here is that this might become a habit. I think all of us feel sorry for ourselves at least to some extent.
It doesn’t help !
I do this sometimes. I think it is ok, as long as you don’t do it all the time.
I used to feel sorry for myself as a teenager a lot but I grew out of it.
Yea same here ! For like no reason either!! I also feel sorry for myself off meds!
I used to feel sorry for myself a lot.
Sometimes I still do.
When I do, I try to remember the classy tune “you’ll rebel to anything” by MSI.
"Boo ■■■■■■■ hoo you’re not the only one who’s life is a piece of ■■■■,
Yet, miraculously somehow we all seem to deal with it".
As you can tell by the lyric it is not classy,
But it does make a solid point.
Everybody’s got problems, you’re not the only one,
So pull it together and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Kind of puts it in prospective for me.
In a funny, curse filled way.
Reminding myself it could be a lot worse helps. I have insight most of the time and im lucky as hell for that one. If i didnt have insight i would have ran away the other day and started living on the streets.