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Do you think its bad to feel sorry for yourself

Im starting to feel sorry for myself for everything i have to go through mentally and with my childhood. This feeling comes and goes and i always hate it but maybe its just a normal emotion

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I think that’s a normal and valid feeling. I deal with it, too, sometimes, and for me it stems from anger over unfair treatment.

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I feel sorry for myself occasionally. Having moments of self-pity and sorrow is a normal feeling. But, I overcome these feelings by reminding myself that my situation can be worse. I’m doing well now despite my setbacks. I forge on with determination to be the best I can be with what I have. Thinking positively helps tremendously.

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I’ll feel sorry for myself once in a while but like @ciaociao1 said, there’s people in worse shape and circumstances than me.

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I don’t really feel sorry for myself. It just doesn’t help me. That’s why. I do get very sad from time to time though, but maybe that’s a different thing. And maybe that will reduce with time.

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I try not to feel sorry for myself, but like you said, the mood just hits me occasionally. I get blasted with a sense of perspective over “How did none of the adults in my life manage to protect me when I was a kid?”

I think this is a healthier feeling than my previous feeling of “How did I suck so bad at everything all the time?” I have stopped blaming myself for the trauma I went through, and started blaming others instead. It makes me angry when it happens. I don’t know if it is healthy, but it does motivate me in life. I try to make sure my kids know someone is looking out for them, even when I’m mad at them.

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How many kids do you have? Thought you only had one.

I have one at home and one grown up and living elsewhere. The oldest one I never mentioned on here until they moved out for privacy reasons. They were only in our home for 8 months when they were 19-20, but they changed our life in a big way. They were the one who convinced us to open our demographics up to teenagers, rather than just babies. We sort of got them on a fluke, by random chance. They’re almost 23 now, and still call me every week to chat or ask for advice or whatever.

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I think that feeling sorry for yourself or self pity is a normal emotion to process.

Once in a while that emotion being experienced is normal but if you feel like that all the time, I wouldn’t consider that normal.

Suffering from PTSD because of your child hood or what you went through as a child trigger that emotion.

Therapy can benefit someone who is experiencing PTSD or stress related to trauma.

Feeling sorry for yourself, stemming from trauma, isn’t abnormal.

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If it’s not taking up a lot of time focusing on it then it’s not so bad. But if it consumes your thoughts it’s not good.

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Yea I agree with you Pianogal.

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Yes, its bad to victimise yourself. I always try to get on top of me and gain control over myself.

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i don’t feel sorry for myself, i always keep the thought that i gotta keep fighting.

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The danger here is that this might become a habit. I think all of us feel sorry for ourselves at least to some extent.

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It doesn’t help !

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I do this sometimes. I think it is ok, as long as you don’t do it all the time.

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I used to feel sorry for myself as a teenager a lot but I grew out of it.

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Yea same here ! For like no reason either!! I also feel sorry for myself off meds!

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I used to feel sorry for myself a lot.

Sometimes I still do.

When I do, I try to remember the classy tune “you’ll rebel to anything” by MSI.

"Boo ■■■■■■■ hoo you’re not the only one who’s life is a piece of ■■■■,

Yet, miraculously somehow we all seem to deal with it".

As you can tell by the lyric it is not classy,

But it does make a solid point.

Everybody’s got problems, you’re not the only one,

So pull it together and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Kind of puts it in prospective for me.

In a funny, curse filled way.

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Reminding myself it could be a lot worse helps. I have insight most of the time and im lucky as hell for that one. If i didnt have insight i would have ran away the other day and started living on the streets.

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