Do you have patience for yourself?

I don’t. I’m very self-critical. And I panic when things don’t go smoothly. I also panic when they do lol.

I’m trying to work on softening my inner voice.

I guess I got yelled at a lot when I was a kiddo.

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Same, I don’t have much patience with myself, but that’s because no one is patient with me, and never has been.

I’m not saying its a bad thing, but I think it contorted my self-image to being not very patient with myself.

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What do you guys mean being patient with yourself? Can somebody explain? I don’t think I understand. I’m not a native English speaker, is it about keeping calm while frustrated?

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Encouraging and reassuring yourself when you make a mistake. Not beating yourself up about things or judging yourself harshly.

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I have patience for myself but not enough love yet.

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I don’t beat myself up about things, my previous selves are all beacons of inspiration for me, it’s not my place to have anything negative to say about them.

I don’t encourage or reassure myself when I make a mistake, I look at the mistake and I give internal feedback where needed, that’s it, no judgment, no consolation, no agitation, nothing. If there’s an ideal and I haven’t reached it, I give feedback where I can on how to get closer.

I do assess myself harshly, but I am a harsh critic. I am petty and perfectionist but there’s no malice or condemnation involved. It’s just that I let myself know what needs fixing, no matter how trivial and I do so in a way that actually helps, which sometimes requires some tough love, I am not in the habit of allowing myself to lose my respect to gain my pity. I don’t however demand of myself more than I can give.

I used the word assess because that’s what I do with myself and others. I don’t judge, I assess, and while others may not be able to tell the difference due to the relatively interchangeable outward manifestation, internally the lack of judgment is evident even in the harshest of critiques using the most severe of wordings.

You tell me if I’m patient with myself or not. I am not impatient, that’s for certain, whether I make it to a positive or stay squarely neutral is up for debate however.

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It’s a work in progress for me… I use to be worse to myself.

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I’m glad you’re improving in that respect. :grin:

@AKendrick

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Thanks Zoe :grin: this forum helps !!! When I’m not paranoid about it lol

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Im very critical of myself, always take things critically.

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I swear at myself quite a lot.

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In some ways I have patience with myself, and in other ways I don’t. Sometimes I have no choice but to have patience with myself.

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I tried to tag you on one of my post but couldn’t find your name :thinking:

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You seem like you really know your inner self. That’s really good :blush::pray:

I’m too hard on myself I need to learn to give myself a break

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I have to. I have more patience for others now too.

More than I used to, but not as much as I need to.

No but I did buy myself pizza today and I like to think that’s self care enough :smile:

I want patience and I want it now.