I lived with someone for 2 years and we were talking about getting married even!
It didn’t work out and I still think to this day how lucky I was that it didn’t.
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Ofc I am lucky to not have kids. I met my gf at 20 y.o. We left each other at 25 y.o. I slept at her house during the weekend. She told me to pay half the rent and live with her but I couldn’t work or have income. She wanted kids many times by stopping her contraceptive pills but I stopped her.
I don’t have the money and mental stability to raise a healthy kid. I would rather have no kids than having poor unhealthy kids with a possibility of divorce because I have 0 income and live with my parents.
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Yes but only years later. At first I suffered badly when she left me. I wasn’t good at reading people back then. I am still below par for my age in that respect.
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Oh yes. One of my exes is in prison for chasing after a 13 year old when he was 30. So yeah dodged a bullet there
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I had a crush on a guy that was very religious.
Tried to date him for like a year, but he wasn’t into me,
Probs on account of my pot habit and the fact that I wasn’t a virgin.
Sometimes I think about what would have happened if I’d pushed it and we’d ended up together.
My psychosis would have been even worse in a religious household and probably would have treated “spiritually” vs with meds.
It would have been a disaster.
Glad I’m with my husband and that things never really blossomed with the religious guy.
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I was with a very narcissistic guy (not my ex…after my divorce) and he messed me up pretty bad. He was a bad man. Unfortunately he took thousands of dollars from me and gambled it away. I will never see that money. I was a fool. I am just glad he’s gone.
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I let this guy get money and sex out of me even though I didn’t like him. at all.
he was very persistent and coersive and used aggressive, and derogatory language on me if he did not get things his way. so I felt like I was walking on egg shells.
it was a messed up situation.
I was in a paranoid state. that is why it all happened. though initially it was due to loneliness and curiosuidty that i got involved
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im lucky to have not ended up with my college girlfriend. i didn’t love her, but i was comfortable with her. we dated 3 years and i still hadn’t gotten over the women that broke my heart when i was 20. i shouldnt have been dating anyhow. we could have gotten married and i would have been miserable. dodged a bullet with that one.
but then when i was 25 i started dating this other women and she was perfect for me, but i felt she drank too much. so i ended it, because i was wanting to quit drinking. i regret that all the time, but anyways they both live happy lives now with different partners. and im pretty happy too.
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I was engaged to a great woman when I was in the service.
She wanted more of the domestic life, and I wanted to go to film school and see more of the world.
Plus she had three kids from a previous marriage.
There’s a part of me that still loves her to this day, but people change and she’s probably not the same person I knew in the past.
But yeah, I dodged that one.
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Yes. My last two boyfriends. One was long term, 7 years and an alcoholic abusive $@#!. I almost married him. Had a child withhim. Then a short term abusive guy for 6 months, rebound after the major ex.
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My first real boyfriend was a sexually abusive jerk. Well, he tried to be. I didn’t have a lucky escape though. I just got real sick of his crap and kicked him to the curb. He said all guys were like that, and that men have certain needs. I told him if he had those needs, he could go get them somewhere else because I thought he was awful. We were only together 3 months. He tried to get me back and I gave him one more chance, but he started being a dick again before I had even seen him again. So I turned off my phone for a week, deleted the dozens of texts and voicemails without listening to them, and told a family member who convinced him to never speak to me again. I did not try dating again for a long time.
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When I was young I dated a older male for about four weeks before dumping him, about six months later he and one of his friends raped me in the basement of my friends house. I think I had a lucky escape. It could have been much worse. in 2016 he was arrested for first degree murder and just in 2019 was committed to life in prison for the said murder. Yes I think I had a lucky escape.
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The only time I ever had the thought that I’d like to marry a guy turned out to be a real jerk. I should have realized that, in appearance, he resembled my father enough and it made me comfortable because it was familiar. But my father was a dick and so was he. Glad he married someone else. I think I lost my job because of him - got nervous and up tight. That was the real loss to the experience.
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Lucky escape twice. Got out of severely abusive relationships before they killed me. One of them went on to be arrested for attempted murder 2 years after I got away. So definitely lucky escape there.
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One time I approach this girl, and she turned me down roundly. I got to watching her, and I was so glad she turned me down! She would have driven me crazy!
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Omg some of these accounts here are very scary.
Guy I was seeing he did tell me this story how he smashed someone’s head with a wine bottle cos he provoked him with some words. Dude had to go hospital. The scary part is that he seemed to still think that he deserved it. After that day I became very paranoid of him.
But I know he has a good thing going too. Its just I don’t get him.
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I had a drug addicted boyfriend for many years who was abusive mentally and physically. I left him because he wouldn’t stop doing drugs, and wouldn’t take his antipsychotics.
He got brain damage from the drugs and constant psychosis and is now in a group home and very overweight.
I feel like my life would have ended in disaster had I stayed with him.
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I’ve had convenient moves with 2 of my relationships. One of them was a sweet guy (very troubled-he was my “bad boy” relationship) but I honestly had just lost feelings for him (and didn’t have that many to begin with, I just agreed to date him because he was always nice to me and the bad boy thing was exciting and I saw no reason not to.) My family moved and i used that as an excuse to end the relationship. He was a druggie at the time and became a drug dealer later. Glad I got out of that one.
The other one was just such a terrible boyfriend. He’d act like I did not exist in public spaces. He’d ignore me in class (we sat next to each other) and wouldn’t even walk to class with me even when we had to go the same direction. Definitely no signs of affection. Only if we were alone. I’d come over and want to hang out (he didn’t let me come over when his family was home) and he would just want to do sexual things. He would get embarrassed by me and mad at me for something silly like accidentally spilling my drink at a restaurant. Im pretty sure he took inappropriate pics of me without my consent and lied about it. It was a stressful and unhappy relationship and im pretty sure he was only dating me because he wanted to have sex with me even though I told him at the beginning I didn’t want to have sex and we never did get that far. I graduated school and left for college and dumped him then and was hugely relieved. I just had this moment of awareness once when I had to be apart from him for a week that like wow, this relationship sucks and I want it to be over. Im so glad I had that week away to clear my head like that… He tried to stay friends after we broke up and I didn’t have any of it I just ignored him. Even when I broke up with him his response was “I thought we were going to have sex” ick. Idk why he wanted to hide that he was dating me and acted embarrassed of it, I was pretty out of his league. He was just an ass.
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I’m sorry that I married an abusive sociopath.
The marriage nearly destroyed me completely.
Thank goodness she got tired of toying with me and filed for divorce.
I would of ended up dead.
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