Do you consider this statement to be true? All my friends have ditched me or the ones that haven’t I’m too lazy to spend time with them or they’re a bad influence
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It matters whether or not you put effort into the friendship. My friendships have lasted a very long time since I made new friends about 12 years ago
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Every time.
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They really do. Most normies are snakes.
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Depends. Some do, some don’t. I have some friends from when I was 14, another few from 20 years ago, some that are significantly less than that. Sometimes the relationship just fades naturally, no hard feelings. Sometimes there has to be an intentional cut off from your life. Or some blow up happens, forcing you apart.
But if you’re too lazy to put in any effort into a relationship, it won’t survive. I echo @LilyoftheValley when she says it matters if you put effort into the relationship. If the relationship is worth it, then do it. None of my friends live near me. We all have to make the effort to stay in touch, visit, and we do, because they are worth it to me.
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Yeah, I don’t have any friends in real life.
I have about 60 friends on Facebook but they are just people from school who friended me to say what’s up but I don’t talk to them, and I don’t hang out with any of them in real life.
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Yes they do, but if they don’t I’m the one that comes and goes.
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I haven’t had friends since I got sick. I used to always have a best friend. Most recently it was my college buddy. He kind of distanced himself from me when I got sick in 2014.
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I hate hearing that. 
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When I got sz I lost all my friends except for one who wasn’t really my friend and who then connected me to new friends. Now I don’t talk to him anymore but talk to one friend daily and to 2 friends every 1-2 weeks. I have lost lots of friends since swtching from Abilify to Risperdal as my negative symptoms got worse and now I rarely hangout with them.
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Bcz I can barely get out of bed. Most of the time I only go outside my house for Dr apts.
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I had a lot of friends in high school but I walked away and cut contact when I quit doing drugs. I quit doing drugs because of schiz and I walked away because I didn’t want to be around people doing them. Some friends I had since first grade.
I signed up on facebook and got bombarded with friends requests. After a month I told some people bye and deleted my account. I have have 2 close friends now but they’re people I met when working. We go fishing together and stuff.
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Yes, I agree with the statement that “friends come and go”. That is why I have only family members as my friends on Facebook. Majority of friends I have met throughout my life have been cut off by me due to my schizophrenia.
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I like to spend time with family members but have some close friends too.
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I had some bad influencing school friends I had to get away from when I was 17, as most of them did drugs, and I was on a court ordered rehab
Then I made friends with a local family with 4 brothers, and we used to do a lot together
When I got sick again I lost contact
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My friendships last years. When I’m in the middle of a friendship I don’t look at it that way.
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Apparently they do.
I used to be the type that was like, “friends forever” but now I realize that doesn’t exist. At least it hasn’t been the case for me.
Without this turning into a pity party, I’ve been ditched so many times I’ve lost count, and as a result, just don’t really want friends most days.
It’d be cool to hang out with someone, but now I have this sort of apprehension that they’ll just bounce like others have done in the past.
I’m alright with having my mom and boyfriend and dad in my life.
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I like the expression ‘for a reason, a season or a lifetime’.
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maybe its just a bad connection. equalize your feelings by spending time taking care of your goals.
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I think if I want them to stay then I have to try to keep them, but when I do that I feel like they don’t want me and I’m making them stay out of guilt, or something. There’s some buried shame there, like I’m not good enough to have a real friend. sobs
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