I think I had this, it’s not me but playing part on people’s games gets me here, defensive and arrogant… and it had me super tired like the fire has burnt out and that I need some time to myself @anon31960475
Edit: things are much better now though
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Butler Bowens. Maid Moonbeam. Valet Voithos. Nanny Ninjastar.
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I do have SZ, but I am sometimes lacking when it comes to common sense. This is something @Moonbeam has in great supply and the other moderators are grateful to her for letting us use it as needed. There is a reason I am limited to 24 hour bans and she is not.
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I feel you man… Sad part is I can’t tell if they are actually playing a game with me or if Im just crazy
Yeah I just react. It’s sad cause I’d much prefer to be left alone, but if there within my personal space I cough or call it out when I can. But I guess what you’re going through and I are different. Think they notice something which is peculiar and they are curious @anon31960475
Edit: just focus on the positives apperntly what is happening from my understanding people are giving off a vibe of anxiety. So don’t stress that stuff
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Sure. When someone makes us feel ashamed, hurt, guilty or personally attacked, we become defensive. Defensiveness is both a feeling (the feelings I’ve mentioned) and a behavior. The behavior manifests itself by trying to make the other person feel ashamed, hurt, guilty, or personally attacked, which provides us relief (albeit temporary) from the unpleasant feelings.
A way to avoid defensiveness is to not take criticism personally. For example, if someone tells me that I’m a good-for-nothing idiot because I forgot to mail a letter, I can simply say, “I’m sorry, but your choice of words makes me feel like I always forget to mail letters. This is the first time its happened, so let’s not insult each other when we could be working together to prevent it from happening again.”
Arrogance is an inflated sense of one’s own abilities or importance. Arrogant people believe the rules don’t apply to them (contempt) and they lack empathy.
An arrogant person can never reach their full potential because they’re not willing to learn, they’re not willing to listen.
No matter how proficient a person is at something, they can always learn and get more proficient at it–if they’re willing to be critiqued. Kobe Bryant had a coach. Michael Jordan had a coach. Wayne Gretzky had a coach. Tom Brady had a coach.
Nobody knows it all.
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I find the best approach is to leave the area where the contfrontation is happening and photograph a different one. Much more relaxing.
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Try telling that to MAGA Trump worshipers.
Oh you’ve got it difficult in USA @77nick77 . I’m from Australia… but still human good and the human bad are here too. Best to focus on the positives!
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@77nick77 touve been here since 2013. Damn!
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There was the old forum before this one, I was on there from 2010-2013.
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I am willing to be critiqued by someone else who is competent in my craft.
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Defensive arrogance reminds me of that word humble brag
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I would kinda rather have someone feel highly of themselves then feel suicidal or something. I love competitive comradery and mastery of things in life.
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Your emotions are your own, but try to keep the arrogance down. It can upset people’s apple carts, and they can get angry. I have some involuntary mannerisms, which I hate, but I can’t get rid of them. That is why I tend to stay away from people.
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I did it again… I don’t know how to stop giving myself blow jobs lol
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I had two dreams where I could give myself a blow job.
Lol
Enough words
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I feel like I’m a genius or gifted person, but the truth is I’m unsuccessful and stuff. No evidence. Just my inner feelings and narcissism and grandiosity and fantasies. In fact, I’m pretty sensitive and feel like I’m either going crazy or insane some times and have a defense mechanism set up to prevent me from feeling hurt more.
That sucks man… I use to think of myself that way but I realized I do have some success in my life and good quality. It’s important to be kind to yourself especially when life isn’t always good to you.
Im slowly learning that sh iting on yourself just makes it worse man. Idk if that’s what your doing by listing your flaws but we all are special in a way and have our own strengths and weaknesses.
Anyways…idk why I wrote all of that . I guess it reminds me of a mental prison I use to occupy
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