Do you think people who live in the closet should have an obligation to tell family and friends if you have them?
I personally identify somewhere between the cracks of this acronym, but I don’t feel that I need to disclose this information to my family until I actually meet someone.
Am I right in this type of thinking?
It just seems a bit pointless to me coming out to people when there is no realistic prospect of finding a partner, so it’s really a bit of a non issue.
And what if I found a partner from the opposite sex that changes my perspective?
My sexuality is described as fluid, so I don’t really associate my preferences to any one label
Just not sure if I am being dishonest about it.
I trust the forum members here for giving pretty good advice.
My daughter recently came out to me as on the lgbtq+ spectrum. I’m happy she did, but she certainly wasn’t obligated to. I’m happy to know and be able to support her-but she’s at a point where she really needs support in her life in all aspects (preteen). I think if you’re an adult and/or you’re at a point in life where you don’t require that sort of support, there’s nothing wrong or dishonest about not disclosing that kind of information.
I think if you feel your family would be supportive of your choice to come out you should do so but if it’s going to be drama and grief then wait until you find a partner. Wait maybe that’s wrong. Maybe you should get it over with so the drama is out of the way before you get a partner involved. I don’t know. That’s a tough question.
If you feel comfortable saying so then there’s nothing wrong in coming out, but if you’ve not reached that point its OK to take your time… you also don’t have to come out its completely your decision…
I have struggled something similar… as i started online dating I had not a lot of experience of dating in general… as i started talking to people the conversations always seemed to steer towards sex however I struggled to hold these convos … as time went on I thought maybe i need to change the way I think so I let these conversations happen but it was uncomfortable… and it made me feel like I was going crazy… i just didn’t want to be part of it… then I started talking to my partner who I talked to for over a month without meeting and without talking about sex … i met him and it just felt comfortable and there has been no pressure … but I have wondered if i was lesbian but I can’t seem to see myself with a woman or marrying a woman… i guess I maybe asexual, i don’t know time will tell … he said whatever it is i am he’s going to be with me and support me through it … I’m so incredibly lucky and happy
It’s not a spectrum. It’s a bunch of different categories and spectrums. I know you didn’t mean to say anything bad, so I’m just informing you that that’s kind of lumping us all together as if trans and gay and intersex, etc, are all variations of the same thing. But I know you only meant to support us and I’m not in any way offended. Good on you for being a good parent and accepting your daughter.
I think there is nothing wrong with coming out, or with keeping it to yourself. I know I am much happier now that I am out, even though some family members hate me now. I did end up having more people be supportive than I thought.
I’m 61 years old now and realized I was gay back in 1976-77 in the 12th grade. Things were different back then. All my family and friends now know that I’m gay. I don’t try to hide it as much now.
I’m a bit different. I identify as the + part of LGBTQ+. Being ABDL can be a sexual fetish thing sometimes and many times not. I am who I am. Came out to my mum that I’m interested in such things. Crazy no doubt but I knew since I was very young. Just like many LGBTQ+ knew about themselves when they were young. Mi madre es muy bueno. Mother was totally accepting. And I love her for it.
would u choose hiding it for lives , pressing it and cause real harms to urself or be open , let u be free of these suffocated thoughts that can harm ur physical health?
People aren’t exactly friendly to gay folks in all areas. Opening yourself up to a lifetime of discrimination is a very personal choice that others shouldn’t be making for you.
it’s your choice. there is no pressure at all. if you don’t feel the need, then don’t. it’s not dishonest because it is a personal thing that no one is entitled to but you
I firmly believe no one is entitled to know my sexuality, and to be honest I enjoy keeping people guessing. Im always as vague as possible with what I say if the topic of my sexuality comes up. I dont even understand my preferences, so Im not about to try to explain them to other people.
