i am experiencing blackouts and falling so they are sending me for tests. I told my aunt about this. This is what she said to me…well it’s no wonder you take too many medications as it is. All this talk about voices you could make them stop if you wanted to you just want the attention. And you are out there airing family secrets so that you’ll get sympathy. Face it everybody’s dad did that or you got beat you just got both. It’s really no big deal. Quit acting like it was. I think that now that your sister is an alcoholic and your father has Alzheimer’s that you should give up this attention seeking behavior and go take care of them, that way if you have seizures they will be there. It shouldn’t matter that it’s three hours out in the middle of the woods in upper Michigan. Stop thinking about what you want. You should stop taking all that medicine you were fine before you will be fine again, get rid of that doctor who talked you out of working and get a job…I cried all day. No support. My therapist says her generation doesn’t understand mental health that much. He thinks going to live with my abuser and my sister who isnoT ready to get help would be desaster for me. What do you think?
Sorry you had to go through that. Attitude like that from my family is the reason I no longer speak to them. You’re also a lot braver than you realise and probably what triggered the hostility in your Aunt. It’s the talking openly that there is problems in your family. It only takes one person to stand up and make a difference and you’re doing it. Doing the right thing isn’t always easy though. Some battles are best fought one at a time though. Something that might help is getting a social worker involved with your family.
Might also be an idea for you to get more support. Offline support groups are great. Places like Nami if you’re in the US is pretty much a must. Also finding a good phone line counselling service. I say that as are open 24/7 and cheap. Some are better than others and being run by volunteers can vary on their experience. So an idea to familiarize yourself with them.
I also haven’t forgotten you all weekend either. I hope the rest of the weekend improves greatly for you. Hang in there it does get better
quite frankly? ur aunt is a twat. don’t pay her any heed at all. ur doc is right, in her generation, abuse was swept under the carpet and it stayed there. f***k her. cut her off. I would. as for the falling and black outs, it may well be due to ur meds lowering ur blood pressure or it could be epilepsy. go for the tests and try not to worry. I had a friend that used to do the same thing and they couldn’t find anything wrong with her after a multitude of heart and brain tests. she just grew out of it and hasn’t had one for years now so try not to worry. hope this helps x
I can’t cut her off she’s one of two people I have in my support system. Dr. Park said let it go in one ear and out of the other.
It’s not uncommon, unfortunately. She doesn’t know what she’s talking about.but you know that; she’s just a grumpy lady who is living in a different time, when people with SZ were just called ‘weird’, people with autism were just ‘a bit strange, not very social’, depressed people were just ‘a bit sad’ - you get the drift. My ex’s grandfather tried to commit suicide twice, my hanging (thankfully unsuccessfully) - it was only recently that he found that out from his mother…his grandmother used to just say ‘He went through a hard time after his business collapsed’.
So, you begin to see her perspective…she’s still a nasty piece of work (perhaps letting out frustrations on you?) - who knows. What I do know is that you shouldn’t take it personally…you have doctors etc. whose advice you need to listen to.
I seriously hope that you can find some assisted living or a group home that specializes in Sz and maybe find a way to start getting out of that environment.
If it’s a once in a while vent of frustration I can some what understand… but if this is an on going thing… this doesn’t feel like it’s going to help you get healthy or stay on track.
You might want to look into widening your safety nets so you don’t have to rely on them for your emotional support.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
It’s best just to let stuff like that roll off your back, if your aunt can’t affect you. If she can, maybe you need to get assertive and explain to her that you have an illness and you are doing the best you can.
Sorry for you. Just don’t be offended the general population has slim knowledge of mental illness and how disabling it can become. Hang in there and don’t get offended I mean don’t give her words that space and find something else to think about think of how to overcome it. My heart is with you I know exactly what you’re going thru. Sending hugs.
The families of those affected by Schizophrenia really in my eyes need to be the most educated and understanding on the subject. I’m just gonna say sorry to hear that they were so not understanding of your illness and yourself included. This might sound really super passive but, I just wouldn’t talk to those negative people about anything. And don’t let them make you feel inadequate for not being ABLE to just “get well” like they expect you to. They are flaring your emotions up and that is absolutely counter-productive to you getting better.
Take care!!!
While some medications may cause blackouts (rare actually), it should have stopped there. The rest is pure insanity.
I notice she doesn’t offer any suggestions on HOW to stop voices, just a rude comment.
And, going to stay with your abusers in a dysfunctional situation would not be healthy at all.
Personally I would just avoid this aunt as much as possible.
Sadly, I can believe you were told that. Sorry!
Jayster
some times family just plain sucks…