I hsve moved in with him but i feel it was a big mistake. He was caught a few years ago. He has a sexual prevention order in place. I need to leave him but feel like im betraying him. I really did love him but its all online now and feel as though ill be put in danger because of him. I also wanted children but i cannot with him. He is alot older then me. about a 39 year age gap. He really loves me and when i told him im thinking of moving back home he went sick in the toilet and started crying. I feel really bad. I never wanted it to turn out like this but im frightened if i do leave he will hurt himself. He keeps saying im his world and im what keeps him going. Im so frightened to go tbh
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What’s the age gap between u to how old are you.
He sounds a bit like a pervert but idk
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39 years he is 64 and im 25
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Uhh… that’s a very large age gap if I must say so myself.
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He sort of made me feel like i have led him on. He was saying that for the past year or so he has done everything for me. Even giving up smoking. I said to him i want children one day and he said he was fine with it but how can he be fine with it when its likely he will pass away before they turn 20. Also i dont even know if i can trust him tbh. I lost my dad at 25 so i know how hard it is and when they are that young its even worse.
He is a sweet man but this has sent me over the edge and my anxiety is spiralling
Any guy who hurts children is NOT a real man and belongs in a meat grinder.
Just my 2 cents.
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@anon25963852 What financial, anatomical, personality, behaviour or attitude traits that made you become involved with a 64-year old man?
He was telling me he didnt do anything and that they were decoysm but even so makes me feel sick
Mainly financial. He was promising a house to me when he splits up with his ex but i dont think that will happen as he has kids himself
He also wasnt pestering me for sex like alot of guys my age would do
@anon25963852 Men his age are close to retirement and ought to have a family already. I wouldn’t be surprised that he has no interest personally or sexually with his current wife/partner.
What doesn’t make sense is if he does have children. Why does he not chat with them like any other father would instead of 13-year old strangers of whom are still in school?
Because his kids dont like him and blame him for the divorce of his ex he is very lonely
Honestly @anon25963852, the more you share the less healthy it sounds. If it were me I’d be heading for the exit and nailing it shut behind me. Sorry you found yourself here.
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I just feel so bad. Like i have let him down. I feel so guilty but i cant let go of all of this
I doubt that was the first time he did something like that, he probably did it before. A 64 year old man just doesn’t just decide out of the blue one day to chat to two 13 year olds. He probably did it multiple times.
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That’s because you’re being emotionally manipulated. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that you’re mentally ill and he has latched onto you.
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I may be wrong but I think the uk has reveal and inform laws when it involves sexual stuff and minors.
I think the police have the power to contact partners of offenders and inform them they could be at risk of abuse.
This law came into place when a number of people died at the hands of known abusers.
Not sure what u am trying to say but I think you know you have to leave but it hurts. That in itself could be the result if coercion which is even more reason to high tail it out of there.
There will be other house. You are only 25. You shouldn’t be going through this messed up stuff
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You haven’t done anything wrong. Don’t feel bad. Don’t let him make u feel bad.
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Allot of red flags, go no contact. 
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He sounds like a lonely, very sad old man with mental needs beyond your expertise. Just because he is a mess does not mean you should feel obligated to be with him. I’d contact his family member you trust the most and make sure he is cared for and go and live your life. There isn’t much you can do for him beyond making sure he is cared for by his relatives.
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