i am responsible for two children soley since my husband died and i feel that acutely. i run a house, pay my bills, put food on the table, do the shopping, buy their clothes, shoes any bits and pieces they need, deal with the drs for them, take them to school and social visits, dentists, buy their uniforms, dry their tears, give them pep talks but i am not the greatest mother in the world and that makes me feel bad. i am not responsible for their loss of me but i am responsible for how i handle it and i over compensate and i shouldn’t. they r good kids on the whole but they have been through so much that i am scared to discipline them for fear of compounding what they’ve been through. i’d like to kill their abusers, first on the inside over a period of years and then on the outside over a period of years till there is no one left. my dad says there is a balance in life and u get what u dish out. i hope he’s right. am i responsible? yes i am but i’m also a 15 year old girl crying out for help and my kids r just toddlers trapped in teenage bodies. how does one deal with that in terms of responsibility. i am a responsible adult with a teenage mind. arrested development it’s called. i have it and my kids have it. they will never grow up and i will never b responsible for that. that’s what u get for being primary witnesses.