I’m more independent than than I was just a few short months ago, but I still feel like I rely on relatives a lot.
I was very independent at one time pre sz and was working 2 jobs and keeping afloat.
I think Im somewhere in the middle ground now.
What about you? Would you be able to thrive on your own or do you require the assistance of others frequently?
This partial reliance is a bit of a problem because my fiance relies heavily on me so I am someone that occassionally may need help with a heavy responsibility for another as well…
For example, my fiance doesnt drive anymore, so I have to drive her everywhere.
My fiance doesnt cook so I have to make sure shes fed.
My fiance doesnt work, so I have to supplement our income with a job.
etc…etc…
I was reliant on mainly my father in his younger years but today the tables have turned.
I’m now his primary caregiver.
I’ve become more independent over the years but I’m still reliant on my brother for longer distance rides.
I still struggle with agoraphobia
Not independent. I sleep absurdly much most of the year. Finally getting that looked at properly. Hopefully there’s a fix. If It can be fixed, then I should be able to start my life again. But until then I do what I can.
I get support to do things
I cook and drive and do house cleaning and help manage my parents appointments and drive them to appointments and help my dad manage rental houses. Without me my parents would be living in assisted living facilities or nursing homes. My mom is on home hospice now and she wouldn’t be able to be home if I wasn’t here with her. As my dad could not tend to her at all. I manage my mom‘s medication‘s and check her sugar and blood pressure and things many times a day. My dad in return is setting me up with a trust fund to make sure I will be well to do if a day comes when I don’t have my mom or dad. It is give-and-take and we couldn’t be well without each other at least as well as we are.
Hi @Bowens You do a lot of good hard work not only for yourself but for your fiancé too! That’s really amazing and loving. You should be very proud of yourself. 
You’re so good! Make sure you’re taking care of you too!! Can’t forget about that! 
Hi @Bitty . Thank you for your kind words.
I rely on this forum, mental health workers and my parents
Say parents last as I try not to put too much pressure on them these days
They should enjoy retirement !
I rely on my wife and my mother a lot…my wife emotionally and my mom financially…I love my mom’s emotional support too but it is what it is…she helps us almost every month when we fall short on funds.
I cant really take care of some basic needs but others im great at. I have trouble preparing food, grocery shopping, on and off with driving, and i rely on my partner for emotional support. Somtimes i need help with mobility
i can’t live by myself. i rely on my mum and dad. mum gets some money from healthcare to take care of me.
Haven’t lived on my own since getting sz – I can’t afford to 
So I’m not sure. But as of right now, I’m pretty dependent on my folks. I’m really trying to better my situation, though, by trying to find a part-time job. Even then, I don’t think I could afford to live on my own lol
I rely on my husband financially. I can do housework and drive, but I need assistance with driving, and I don’t work and earn an income. I’m 41 and never really had any job or income. I was married at 28 and suffered my return of sza then, never worked since then. Before I was married I had a casual shop job but that was all. I had to rely on others financially.
I dont have much support, its mostly on the phone, I like it this way,
i use to take my mum out and support her with her deaf/blindness but my ME has thwarted that now, I am more supported for my ME than my MI now i think, I see a P/doc every 4 months to check in about my MI and for my ME i see a psychologist every 4 Months plus an OT every Month.
90% independent I would say. I mean I live alone with my boys. Do the cooking. Cleaning. Get them to school. Pay my bills etc.
I do rely on lifts from time to time though cos I don’t drive. I’m trying to change that but having no luck.
Sometimes if something comes up financially like the bloody cat needing an op this week I have to ask for help but I do pay back.
To be independent 100% I need to start driving. And I need some savings. My mother won’t be around forever.
I rely on others quite a bit but I am actively working on becoming more and more independent over time. It’s one of my goals in the intensive therapy program I’m in.
Make sure you do enough self care and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Being a caregiver is hard work. You need breaks here and there.
Even in our better days; we are all co-dependent. Even those who live off-grid, and have little to no contact. They are reliant on someone or something.
I’ve rarely met anyone I could depend on.
I get temporary jobs, but quite poor income..
I got family that helps,otherwise I wouldn’t have enough..
I got about 380$ to survive,pay large bills and meds.
I still sell some things like books.