it’s just a general impression I’ve always gotten.
but maybe the poor are too.
it made no sense when my mom said to me
when I was 22, pregnant, and living with them,
“You’ve got to live by our rules.”
they didn’t say that once when I was a kid,
me and Ronnie had total freedom. and here I was, 22.
no idea what I was doing wrong, plus I was working two jobs.
I don’t know about strictness per se, but children from poor homes are more likely to be physically disciplined.
Well, when it comes to money, I think we all hear those stories of millionaires or billionaires who are not leaving their fortunes to their children and force their children to earn their own living. I mean this is the first thing that came to my mind even though you’re talking about discipline.
yeah. I wasn’t really talking about discipline, though.
I remember a wealthy man, we were out at the park, for Boy Scouts, his son said, I want to camp out with everybody else,
and his dad told him, No, you’re going home to sleep in your bed.
by the way, my son and me earned the Polar Bear patch for that campout. ha. my daughter was there too, all cramped in the tent.
they all went out on a nightime hike,
and they got lost,
the ranger had to be called.
ha, good times.
I think my mom wasn’t the best parent, because of things people might have been doing, that I’ve experienced and it would make life difficult.
My mom once said she thinks wealth changes people. Money doesn’t buy or create happiness. It must depend on family values and dynamics.
I’m not sure how much of this to believe, but thanks.
I believe wealthier parents put added emotional pressure on their kids to perform and to succeed in life.
We weren’t those parents that managed every minute of our daughter’s day, but she did grow up with expectations like keeping her room clean, getting passing grades (we pushed for at least a B in each course, except for phys-ed which we didn’t regard as a real course), learning at least one instrument, participating in 4H public speaking, and lots of reading. We put aside enough money to pay for four years of university for her, but didn’t “make” her go. We would have supported her going to trade school instead if that was what she wanted.
We raised our son the same way @shutterbug . I didn’t push him into any career direction - he chose University and Chemical Engineering himself. We were middle class parents by the way.
Solid middle class here as well, but that is considered very wealthy by the standards in this community.
@yinyang i don’t think those “facts” are accurate. I’ve moved around in my state and did not meet a single person who was that wealthy
Wealthy households are concentrated in New York City, Seattle, Los Angeles and the San Francisco Bay area. All US states are unequal in terms of population, GDP output, land size and major industries.
Before my diagnosis I would say I was middle class. My daughter struggled in school but there was this unspoken expectation that she would go to college (no if’s, ands or buts). And she did. So idk. I went to college just so I could leave home though as my childhood was unhappy.
Well done on raising a wonderful daughter @Loke . I was middle class during my childhood and married life but am poor now too since my diagnosis. From riches to rags lol.
I had basically zero rules.
I actually used to put myself in time out when I felt I did something bad.
I don’t know about wealthy, but my mom just flipped a house for a 1.25m she got it for 300k
My family has been buying and selling land/homes for years, I think we own 5 properties now. Plus the couple of million my grandfather and mother got from the sale of our company.
Right now I’ve got a trust fund until I’m 80, and I will be the sole inheritance, being an only child and only grandchild.
So that’s where I’m at.
Need a sibling? I promise to guard your ankles!!
Baby, I know you’re better at nibbling at them.
Don’t change a thing.
