I grew up in my grandparents house. My father was gone before I was born, and mother was divorced on grounds of abandonment. I was born in 1959 where most other children had two married parents. I think this is why I became a loner because I was different from the other children.
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Yeah. She had different boyfriends at the same time. The one she had the longest generally wasn’t around unless he was abusing both her and me and mooching $$$.
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In the old days there were limited good paying jobs women were allowed to do. My mom became a public school teacher, but didn’t make enough to live on her own.
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I had a single mom and some are great, I’m sure but she didn’t give a bleep
She never took me to church or basketball games, she made one food meals.
Chicken nuggets, no fries. Fries, no chicken nuggets. If she made tacos, it was a lucky day.
She worked, slept, and watched TV.
She was in charge of my SSI from 14-18.
I never saw that money. She spent my food stamps that she aggressively got her name on on the general family meals.
If I asked for any food that cost more than a few bucks it was one of two excuses
- It was too expensive.
- They don’t have it anymore.
Suddenly when I got control, I had money for any food I wanted as long as I didn’t go overboard and did things the right way.
Imagine that.
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I wasn’t allowed to go to church when I was a kid. My mom didn’t want her children “Religiously Indoctrinated”.
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Only child of a single mother here.
I spent a lot of time with my grandparents, aunt and uncle. Mom rarely had boyfriends, she’s still single and plans to stay that way.
My grandfather became my male influence, least the only good one. My uncle is a meth head, he always scared me. Biological father was also on drugs, haven’t seen him in 32 years.
I still have memories of my father beating my mom, before we ran. I have no desire to subject myself to a person like that.
Now a days my mom lives in the main house, my fiancée and myself in the guest house. I see her every day, help her where I can.
I’ve promised to always stay close to help her, she shouldn’t be alone.
Mother didn’t say much about my father. As I understand it, he was pretty abusive. Mother said she had to bail him out of jail, and he was an alcoholic.
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I looked my father up a couple years ago, public records showed a laundry list of arrests, Driving intoxicated, assaults, drug charges.
Last I heard he had 8 kids by 6 different women. I have a bunch of half siblings, but I’ve never met them.
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Sounds like my dad.
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We can say we are better people than our fathers, I think.
That’s an accomplishment for us both. To try to be better than them. Kinder people.
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I was kinda raised by a single father, my mother was always symptomatic.
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I was raised by my mom and her parents.
She was schizophrenic as well so she was in and outta hospitals as I grew up.
Her Dad my Grandpa was only one whom loved me.
My little brother hated me and I hated him.
My Mom’s step mother my Step grandmother tried to physically kill me ever day, but luckily My Grandpa keep me alive and well.
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Yeah my grandpa was awesome too. Just by taking me to basketball games, home from school, reading me stories as a little kid, and being a quiet steadying influence he was so helpful.
I don’t get why grandma browbeat him so much.
She rarely said much positive about him except how smart he was. She taught my mom how to treat men and males in general, it seems.
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I’m pretty sure why grandpa didn’t leave grandma was because she couldn’t handle money well and couldn’t care for herself that well and my mom, aunt, and uncle would’ve suffered.
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Yep single mom crew.
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I was raised by a single father I love him my mother abandoned me when I was 5 years old when I was hospitalized for schizophrenia at the hospital my mother visited me and now she comes from monday to friday to do household chores
I don’t speak english so sorry for any mistakes.
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My mother was single, but she dropped me off to live with my great grandparents.
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I was raised by my both sets of grandparents until I was six…then I was with mom and dad when he graduated from college in pharmacy and then after I was 13 my parents were divorced and I was with mom alone…then after 18 my parents who remarried divorced again and I moved out…so for a while I was raised by my mom…now I am very close to my mother and not so close to my dad.
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My mum was single for a long time having different boyfriends.
I found her having sex with a strange man in my bed once and was raging furious.
We were poor when it was just the two of us and she said things like that I ruined her life and she regrets having me.
No one has broken my heart as much as my mum.
She drove a cheap car two hours to get to work n two hours back.
We didn’t have food in fridge most of time.
She couldn’t afford to buy me a wormer when I had worms so I had to wait weeks for her next pay day.
I hated her having boyfriends.
My stepfather I got later was abusive and said I’m not a part of their family.
I loved my mum most in world when I was real young but I don’t anymore.
I adore her and love her so so so much but she is not my favourite person anymore.
My x in sa is the person I love most.
I am closer to my former stepmother than I am my parents I reckon.
I love my mum so so so much I just adore her and appreciate her so much but growing up with her was incredibly painful and difficult and I was not coping.
They say we choose our parents.
I love my parents just as they are.
My mum drove me places in the freezing cold and she worked so hard and struggled so much.
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On and off. My dad comes into my life when he feels like it. I prefer when he’s not around.
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