Hi,
I wondered whether anyone on here sometimes has problems with starting/ finishing tasks. Could be anything. Like housework, school stuff etc. It’s like I have to use ALL my energy to get anything done.
Any tips? 
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Yeah, that would be me. I got myself a lot of trouble and grieving moments over the things I didn’t do or feel that I cannot do.
To avoid that horrible feeling of guilt I just tell myself ‘im gonna do it when I feel better.’. It might not be today or tomorrow but it will happen.
It also helps if you plan the task earlier, like if you have a lot of chores, you can make a “to do” list in your mind or even write it somewhere.
Splitting the task into small steps or actions also helps, it doesnt have to be done all at once.
I find that anxiety over things that are left undone most certainly doesn’t help for anything, so just relax and do your best at the moment.
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Just do one productive thing a day, they all add up.
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To give you my most recent example of a “task that was left unfinished”.
Few months ago I signed up for an online TEFL course ( Teaching English for abroad certificate) and at the time I was really excited and motivated about it.
As the time went on though I got my ‘moments’ and bad days so gradually I just quit doing it. So the deadline expired and I wasted my time and (my mom’s) money.
It didn’t feel good. Now I just think twice, or like ten times before I get involved in anything long term. (:
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I have a lot of trouble finishing senten…
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Ahah good one
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I found that I avoided a lot of doing things because I was not prepared for surprises along the way. What might seem exciting, like a shopping trip, had all sorts of surprises, like a car pulling out in front of me, the kid wet her pants in school, the store didn’t have what I wanted, etc. There are good surprises, too. Lunch was delicious! So keep your eyes open to experiences.
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I find myself body present mind absent. It looks as if my body is dying and mind is being screwed. Can I fight back ??? Wait and see.
Yeah. Basic stuff like cleaning to more complex stuff like paperwork. I dislike paperwork.
I just walk around my house when I have the motivation to even do something small and then I look for something I can start or finish. Sometimes it’s as well as putting a dish in the sink. Sometimes it motivates me to do a little more. Other days it doesn’t work. I just do what I can
Got not tips, have a hard time myself, so many bad things happen I just get to the point of why bother and have days of that, yes I’m working but in the back of my head I’m thinking is there really any point to carry on. It has been a endless battle for years and getting no where doing it.
It’s a no win no matter what you do
I keep to a very organized schedule, routine helps a lot when it comes to starting tasks. I also don’t plan any tasks that will take longer than 30 minutes, most are 15 minutes or less. My days are broken up into 10-30 minute tasks, minus my classes which range from 2-4 hours, but only have classes 3 days per week. I also make sure that many of my ‘tasks’ are things that I enjoy. I don’t reserve scheduling only for things I don’t particularly like, which I think has helped to train my brain away from the negative energy that used to come with having scheduled tasks. It’s not just chores and self-care.
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I’m t he same way. It just takes willpower.
If I’m set in doing something, I’ll do it. Sometimes it takes a while to start though, but once it’s set, I’ll just do it.
Often times I will have trouble starting things. I don’t know why it’s just I don’t have the motivation to do it. I’ll tell myself that I’ll do it later, but I know that I most likely won’t do it. Also finishing things. I might start it but then only a little bit in I just can’t seem to continue. Sometimes it’s I just can’t stay focused and sometimes I just can’t seem to continue although for no apparent reason. I’ve been trying to quit doing this but honestly it’s hard. It’s like a bad habit.