I’m fairly social. I have a group of friends that I enjoy hanging out with. But I usually need to spend days preparing for it. I won’t do impromptu hang sessions and I need a lot of time to recharge afterwards.
I usually hang out with friends once MAYBE twice a month due to this. The only person I can stand on the daily is my partner. I love his company.
That said, I have to see a lot of people back to back for the holiday season and I’m worried about it getting burnt out.
I don’t go out often these days
Dog walking is about it
Sometimes I go to the cafe in town for a mocha
Maybe once or twice a month
Working from home is a blessing!
I’m pretty reclusive but not through choice and have been told to " stay away" by some bloke who owns a house near me.
I only ever either phone my mum or brother but he has a young family to think of so it’s normally mum.
Even a man at the bar in the pub told me to Foff when I returned the pint glasses. Dunno what I’ve done wrong. Things can only get better.
I’m trying to get the recluse life to choose me and I’m failing.
On a serious note, its hard to tell what the future being a recluse will bring but I’ll probably suffer from not going out except for doctors or dentist occasionally, yep I’ll probably be making myself more sick but i prefer not going anywhere, i like solitude, i spend all day on my own, everyday on my own i see hubby a few minutes here and there. I rarely listen to music or do anything but im less stressed this way. I can’t handle stress so this is all im left with, no more options i think
I am a recluse but I do attend groups every week…
I don’t prefer it but I think I’m starting to suffer ill effects from it. The only social exposure i get is work and that’s mostly working with kids.
I made an appt for therapy on Monday, gonna work towards making some new friends that aren’t old college buddies
I like peace and quiet even having said that I miss the closeness of a woman occassionally I get it and return to my solitude
I need people, but I generally don’t enjoy people.
I even struggle at AA meetings while still managing to appreciate other AA members.
Honestly, other than my wife and daughter, there are only a select few people who I voluntarily want in my life.
I would trade my social skills for less negative symptoms. I don’t mind being a recluse if it means being more functional with less negative and cognitive symptoms
I guess thats why weve ended up here at one of the most obscure social media forums, easier than dealing with people in real life
A photographer friend pestered me into joining Vero. I only joined because he only posts some of his work there and I couldn’t see it unless I also joined. As soon as I joined and posted a couple of things just for him he suddenly introduced me to his very large following. Then I was getting bombarded with requests from people I have no interest in socializing with. Ray said he has never seen anyone use social media as anti-socially as I do.
He is the only audience I actually want for my photos in terms of feedback. I have no idea what I’ll do when cancer finally takes him.
Aww bless. Yes i completely understand where you’re coming from. Your not alone in preferring your own company a lot theres many of us here who live quiet lives. Anxiety, paranoia and voices are enough to deal with
I’ve been isolated ever since my junior year in high school. But its been especially bad the last 20 years or so. I’m definitely what you would call a recluse. I don’t necessarily like it though. It’s sometimes imposed on me by other reclusive types. And it doesn’t help that I don’t drive.
It helps tremendously that I know how to keep myself entertained.
I live in the middle of things but miles from anything, and like @SkinnyMe I don’t drive. My only socialization is with my family when I can get it. My mother usually gets out for a while once a week. I live with one of my brothers but we have an unspoken relationship lol. Most of my human contact is via text or on here.
I have THREE Facebook friends - my husband, my sister, and my pastor. Seriously.
It would be four, but the one I would choose is not on FB.
I don’t understand why people think they are reclusive when they have a partner? I live alone and don’t have a friend in the world and my family is far away.
Reclusive means avoiding people, ive been married 27 years so i do see him a couple of hours a day but apart from that i don’t have any social interaction apart from doctor nurse dentist.
Basically its called recluse because we avoid social and people
I did not realize you had been married that long - that is quite an accomplishment. Congrats!