I was in and out at the mental health ER until a tenured nurse sat me down and said “listen. You might just have to accept that you’re going to have these thoughts every once in a while, and learn to cope with them instead of getting scared”
And as harsh as it felt at the time it was actually really useful.
Up until that point I had tried to medicate every symptom away instead of learning to deal with them.
@anon17326926 is right! I was extremely depressed, continuously suicidal and miserable for almost 15 years straight. I was despondent over: my divorce, incest during my childhood and general lack of meaning in my life.
Then, one year, in 2005, I suddenly fell out of love with my ex husband, (someone I had been pining over for 20 years), my father apologized for the incest, and I found religion. With all that, my depression and suicidality lifted and disappeared. It hasn’t returned in the last 17 years.