Going to be a first time mummy in september and this pregnancy is going ridiculously quickly?
I would really appreciate any advice from mothers and fathers alike and even people that haven’t had children? Any pearls of wisdom! 
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I’m not a parent, but my mum said I was easy to look after as she had me in a routine and was throughly predictable.
i’m not a parent either but i would teach my kids to question everything and to be themselves no matter what other kids are doing
@JH85 @Griz I’ve edited my post to include people without children, don’t want anyone left out lol.
Good pieces of advice thank you
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having a good relationship with the father will also be great for the kid. Teach love obviously
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Cultivate patience but be firm. Try to avoid allowing them to crawl in bed with you because it’s hard to get them back out. I’m a mom of two and trust me no one ever has it fully figured out. It’s a learn as you go thing.
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I would tend to do that too. If I had kids I would try to induce them to think independently. You can overdo that rugged individualism, though. It can be a hard and lonely road to travel. If I had kids I would try to get them to think independently, but I wouldn’t want them to be too aloof towards other people.
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Patience is a virtue as they say! Thank you for the advice 
I can’t give you any first hand advice, but I remember in developmental psychiatry class the professor saying how important it is for parents to be consistent. Children have trouble dealing with inconsistency. Even you don’t spank your kids, they’re still going to be troubled if you yell at them in ways they can’t understand or predict. That probably means I would be a bad parent, because, at least for the purposes of philosophy, I think you shouldn’t be too afraid of contradiction. It is an axiom of philosophy that when you reach a contradiction you must make a distinction. I don’t know if children can understand a lot of the distinctions that adults make. That’s probably why my kids might grow up to be out of control drug users or alcohol users if I ever had kids.
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I like to tell expectant parents that when you first bring the baby home, it is the most wonderful/horrible time! It will feel like you will never have a moment to yourself again, will never sleep again or shower or go out anywhere… But it’s totally worth it, and it goes by quickly. Enjoy every second that you’re able to…
Another thing that surprised me: When a baby is born, they’re not “clean slates” waiting to be filled. I was amazed at the individual my son already was as a baby. Get to know your child and respect who they are…
I hope your pregnancy is going well and that you have a beautiful birth experience! ️
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This seems like common sense, but I always see things to the contrary. There are times when you are going to get frustrated. Possibly even angry. Put the baby in the crib or some other safe space and walk away for a minute.
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The beginning when youre losing some sleep and constantly feeding and changing diapers is the easy part. Enjoy that time while you have it. Its when they start to get older that its hard because youre trying to teach them not just their abcs but morals and discipline and how to act in public and theyre not always willing pupils.
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I would recommend not freaking out… my little one has amazing balance so he does things that scare the crap out of his grandparents… I usually don’t say anything if he is doing something semi risky I just try be close enough that if he does fall I can catch him or I may hold his hand while he is balance walking on something… his grandpa freaks out and hollers at him and it throws off his concentration… then he will say see I told you… I had to nip that in the butt… he made him fall off the trampoline the other day yelling at him… so I jumped his ass for making the toddler fall… so yea don’t freak out they are going to do scary stuff sometimes… let them fall to a certain extent other wise they will never learn…but dont let them do something that will get them seriously hurt… just chill and dont let other people project their insecurities off on the little ones…
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Thank you everyone, I am taking this all on board, and I really appreciate the time you’ve all taken to reply to me, with sound advice no less love reading about all of your experiences!
Lol when I was 5, I apparently was running along, tripped and did a full somersault, the person my mum was with was all shocked and like omg. But apparently I just got back up and started running again haha!
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yea if they dont freak out let them be… ive watched little kids fall over and were fine until an adult started freaking out… you can make them fearful of things by your reactions…
you would ninja fall and keep running lol…
I would teach them to sit, stay, lay down, and fetch. If they can catch ptarmigan or rabbits then the food bill will go down. Oh, and to be house-trained. I guess that is why I don’t have kids?
I’d probably go to jail if I put a shock collar on a child.
As you should lol
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