- Very important
- 50/50
- Very unimportant
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I voted 50/50. Years ago I would have voted “Very important”.
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There was a study where they found attractive people tend to get together if you put them in a room.
It is summarized as ‘birds of a feather flock together.’
" The phenomenon you’re referring to is often summarized by the saying “birds of a feather flock together.” Research suggests that people tend to be drawn to others who share their interests, values, and personality traits. Attractive individuals, in particular, tend to seek out equally good-looking companions in social situations1. While this isn’t universally true, it highlights the psychological preference for similarity in romantic partners."
so looks are important only to the level you think you are.
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Mine or theirs?
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Theirs.
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The beauty of the internet is that some people can connect and find beauty in others without factoring looks in.
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It’s important in a way, but it’s the whole that matters.
I have to like a persons face, but other than that it’s all about personality and radiance.
Attraction doesen’t really have to be about sexuality either. I think when we are attracted to people it basically tells us that the other person has something about them we find enjoyable, and it would be pleasant to interact with them. At least I find it kind of relaxing to have that as a initial thought, because it makes it easier to interact for me.
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Looks are not very important to me.
My girlfriend is kind, compassionate, loyal, humble, selfless, I could go on.
If I call her at 3:00 am, she will pick up the phone and help me. It’s not an expectation, it’s a guarantee. Also, she has a way of talking to anyone and making them feel special.
I’m the luckiest man on the face of the earth, and I can’t wait to marry her soon.
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I just had a standard for weight, since I was very skinny at the time I was dating. Facial features were not really as important.
I haven’t been looking since I got sick and I doubt that will ever change.
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I voted 50/50.
There has to be SOME sort of physical attraction.
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Also the halo effect
Enough Christmas 
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The older I’ve gotten, the less important looks are to me. I just want a woman who accepts me
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If we’re talking about judging other people, I voted very unimportant.
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I voted very unimportant.
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identity is dif
lol im signingoff for awule
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I think most people are physically beautiful. I just need to be like that for myself. Im super self critical of my own appearance. I used to have real bad body dysmorphia so i cant always trust how i see myself. I try to only look in mirrors for a few seconds. Otherwise i start to hate what i see intensely.
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I’ve seen average looking women look very attractive because they have an inner positivity, beautiful smile and carry themselves gracefully. And seen gorgeous women I would never want to touch because they are the complete opposite.
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Im not saying all women are like it - but in the experience ive had, those that are particularly attractive bloody well know it - and they hold some sort of arrogance about it. Its like they assume every man fancies them. I dont know how to explain it - but its almost ugly.
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What’s more important to me is aura and vibe.
I live in a neighbourhood where most of the people are arrogant and stuck up with ugly vibes and look down at md and bully vibe me and excluding me while pretending to include me.
Salvos group havd been nice and my dr and a couple at Post Office.
I was bully vibed out of all the gyms here and all the cafes.
I sometimes visit another town and people there havd a nice aura and vibe anc are not shreds ive and “we are better than you and you are worthless trash”…
I don’t care if they are fat or skinny or what race they are of what religion or if they atheist etc as long as they have a good aura and vibe and I feel comfortable with them.
When I’m dating I usually am most interested if I’m comfortable with them and they are nice and respectful to me.
I love long hair and tattoos and beard on a man but sometimes I even fancy a handsome conservative looking man if he is handsome humble respectful to me and calm n cool n nice.
The vibe and aura is what is more important and how they treat me and that I’m comfortable with them.
Same with men and woman.
I think the arrogant stuck up bully vibers here have ugly aura and vibe and can be very fake.
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In this case, they don’t matter a ton. I care significantly more about a person’s character and personality.
I’d say for me I’d say out of 10 looks are a 2 out of 10 in importance and character is an 8 out of 10 in importance.
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My x had long hair to his bum and a beard and tattoos which is hot but his inner self was so attractive too.
He had perfect home which is the only place i ever remember feeling at home.
He gave me space to be myself and he was calm and cool.
I want a calm and cool partner .
He was calm in all situations which is unusual but very awesome.
My current boyfriend is not that calm or stable anc he is poor and doesn’t have a home but rents a room.
I have a close loved one who is so close to me and loved by me but we are not in contact in person but he is too hysterical and intense daily and it’s unbearable for me to feel that as it causes anxiety and akathisia.
I adore him but if he loved me he would not put those horrible emotions on me .
He is stunning handsome man but I can’t handle that kind of intense stuff.
He is one of my closest loved ones I hold high and I’m so attracted to him but he feels too intense and body spasms of tension by him etc
He needs to stop putting that on me .
I feel him because I feel possessed by him and we are close.
A calm man I can relax with anc gives me space to be myself.
He gave me space to be myself.
Except he wouldn’t “let me” go vegan which is why I left.
I miss him n perfect home and dogs.
My current boyfriend is nice to me and he says he understands me because he was family scapegoat too.
He is a sweetheart but he isn’t so calm as x.
I’m attracted to someone who lets me be myself and gives me space to just be me and relax .
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