"Truth is I never wanted to go away , but irreconcilable differences with the moderators forced my hand . Also Moonbeam’s last comments to me added too much fuel to the fire.
All I wanted was a reassurance that the unfair and therefore abusive way I was treated over the 3 day suspension would not be repeated , or at least the chances of it happening minimised.
That could , and should , have come from an acceptance that I was treated badly and a private apology.
The sad thing is I’d explained that the suspension was based on a misinterpretation of what I was saying. That should have prompted an apology and an indication that all possible effort would be made to avoid a repeat of such an occurrence .
Instead the tack, in so many words, was “We are annoyed/upset that you are questioning our decision”.
Knowing there was no acceptance that a wrong had been done didn’t fill me with confidence as to a repeat incidence not occurring and made me feel unsafe.
I am genuinely sorry that reason could not have prevailed over this matter. I am deeply upset that I was,in effect,forced away from somewhere I had been a part of for nearly 20 years."
Regards
Tim/ ex firemonkey
I hope this clarifies why I felt compelled to leave. Unless things have changed you can delete this account as it was only for informational purposes.
As far as the mods, let’s give them the credit they deserve. I like to say we are all a bunch of interesting people. That makes it very difficult to manage all of us. So, I want to take this time to thank the mods and also advise members to cut them some slack.
As far as I am concerned if the mods had apologised and accepted they did wrong that would have been the end of the matter. I certainly would not have waged a war.
Hey firemonkey just want to say hang in there and don’t obsess on things too much. It’s best sometimes to just let it go. And I have no idea what happened, but I’m wishing you the best
Tim, I 100% agree with you. It seems that all you’re asking for is an apology, so I don’t understand why that’s so difficult.
@SzAdmin wants you to stay (he said that on the forum), so I would think the mods would follow suit.
I apologize in regular life all the time, even if I think I’d done nothing wrong. I step up and make it right. We can’t afford to lose a 20-year member over something that’s so easy to rectify.
He must have done something to get the suspension. I don’t think the mods would just pick a random member to be cruel to. That’s especially true for a member who has been around a long time and has some clout on the forums. It just doesn’t add up. He even said he waged all out war on the forum. With that said, I don’t know the situation of why he was suspended. It’s just that common sense tells me he must have done something.
The problem was I was taken as attacking all high functioning people which wasn’t true. I actually said many lack cognitive empathy(not necessarily affective). That was based on nearly 20 years of being here.
It would have been fine to accuse me of hyperbole , perhaps some might have been less controversial , but to suspend me over what was at worst a hyperbolic statement was obviously in itself over the top.
I think the crux of the matter was that Pixel was involved. He recently admitted to me that he’s benefited from preferential treatment from the mods. This is not me saying that; this is Pixel saying that.
We have been over this. Whether you intended to hurt people or not, people were hurt by your statement. And immediately after coming back from your suspension, you unintentionally upset yet another user. Whether you mean it or not, harm was done. I want you to stick around. We all want you to stick around. But you can’t expect preferential treatment, or for us to just ignore the offensive things you say. This is the last time we will tolerate a reopening of the exact same topic. You need to learn to apologize when you’ve done wrong, instead of shifting the blame onto other people who are just doing their jobs.
We (the Mods) have literally been going around in circles with you for weeks on this. We’ve spent a lot of time discussing this with you in PMs Firemonkey. We asked you to stay repeatedly but you ultimately decided you wanted to leave.
You’re welcome to come back anytime if you want to, just create a new Firemonkey account.
Please understand that the Mods all volunteer many hours of our time on this forum. We did our best to discuss your concerns as well as our concerns with you. At some point we just have to agree to disagree. None of the Mods have infinite spare time to discuss something for weeks on end.
You got your apology, firemonkey. We also asked you how we could all avoid this in the future without a suspension, since you seem particularly sensitive to those. You didn’t want to discuss that. You wanted to be exempt from bans and for us to say that we were abusive and stupid when we reacted to your posts in the past, because in your mind, it is impossible to read your posts differently than you intended them without being abusive or stupid. You’ve been reacting excessively strong to every decision we have made against you or your posts since the beginning. We have tried again and again to find a solution, to help you understand our thinking, and to show you that you are appreciated. I know you think we’re monsters, and that half of the rest of you do to, but we’re not. We’re just humans. Sometimes we get tired.